>>6090
I remember having orgasms like those when I was younger and inexperienced. Perhaps you could try a different technique, or just keep "practicing"? I generally believe that my masturbation skills (can you even say that?) have increased since I started out. Toys help as wel..

Have you experienced orgasm with a partner, and if so, has it felt any different?

>>6090
Don't feel bad if your first week, month, or even several months of fapping kinda suck or are confusing. I will tell you this, it will become easier, more pleasurable, and more comfortable with practice. The worst mistake you can make is trying too hard to orgasm, though. Just relax and focus on enjoying yourself! It will get better with time, trust me.

Okay, I have a question about feminine fapping; is it supposed to make such a huge ass mess, or am I weird? I can't tell if I'm cumming or pissing myself.

Hur dur I'm a virgin and have no idea how this shit works.

So i discovered last night that fast paced music helps me fap and it almost seems to make it feel better but it almost drowns out what i'm trying to think of while i'm doing so.
Choices, choices?

>>6151

Femanon, this is called squirting, it's female ejaclation. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation

Fem here. Should I be completely lucid and normal after an orgasm? Because I see in films and such where the woman is all 'OMG I JUST CAME SO HARD. Now I can't walk for ten minutes, and I'll just keep moaning and gasping for breath, kay?', and I'm...I'm just...no.

It's like 'Wham-orgasm-5 seconds later= kay, back to my essay.'
Am I doing it wrong, or am I just like, superwoman or something?

>>6167
Movies exaggerate. Maybe that happens in rare occasions. I think you're normal, don't worry!

So my roommate told me she heard in class or something that only 10% of women ever orgasm. You guys think that's true? I don't believe it personally.

>>6168
It's not true, while an estimated 75% can't cum from direct penetration alone, most every woman can cum from that and/or direct clitoral stimulation. I personally think the lack of cumming from penetration alone is more from the angle the penetration is coming from, if it's not rubbing the front wall where the back of the Skene's Gland (now also refered to as the Female Prostate) and the g-spot are then it's just not as likely to happen.

In my opinion the idea that 90% of women can't cum is kind of hilarious when it's actually a matter of stimulating the right areas. It'd be like saying 90% of men can't cum based on rubbing their inner thigh.

>> 6167

Wouldn't call myself 'normal', but thanks.

10%? Pfft. Yeah right. I took a Human Sexuality class last year, and there IS a certain percentage of women that never orgasm, but it's certainly not 90%. Might be 10%, but I think even that's a little high.
Maybe it's that only 10% of women ejaculate? Perhaps? That sounds a LITTLE more believable, at least by common modern misconceptions and ignorance regarding the subject.

>Just bought a new vibrator
> Received it today, all of my excite as this is the first vibrator I've ever gotten
>MFW batteries not included

Maaaan.

>>6170
About direct clitoral stimulation, it kinda hurts when I do that, even when I'm being gentle as I possibly can be so I usually stop immediately. I'm PRETTY sure there's nothing wrong with my vag since I just went to my OB/GYN for something else and he didn't say anything was amiss. THOUGHTS? You seem to have a pretty good idea of what you're talking about.

>>6203
Some women are a lot more sensitive than others, direct for some can mean through the hood or even the labia. It's not abnormal at all, and in fact I'm kind of jealous of those who are that sensitive. Blame my masochistic side.

I'm the opposite due to my hormones, if it's not right on the nub then I might as well not even bother.

Also keep in mind that nerve wise the lower left hand (your left on your body) is the most sensitive because of placement so rubbing counter clockwise will be more intense than rubbing clockwise.

Jesus christ I know far to much about this shit.

Anon cause I'm a pussy.

I find both women and men physically attractive. I can get turned on by and fantasize about having intercourse with both sexes. I have had opportunities to pursure relationships with either sex for the past few years.. but for some reason, every time it gets to the part that I like, that I want, that I've been always dreaming of - the sex - I just close up and withdraw. Like, it's happened before that even when someone has been kissing me I've just felt awkward, wrong, and all 'do not want', even if I just spent a week fantasizing about kissing that person. I keep wanting to date someone, and as soon as they start touching me in any way - kissing, holding hands, etc - I just shut down and back off. |: I seem to only be able to open up a little more when I'm drunk.

I like the sex part, but when I think about responding to the advances of certain men and women that have shown interest in me and having sex with them, I just... can't do it. I know I will feel awkward and insufficient and bad about it. I also am afraid that I will suddenly see them in a whole new light after we have sex.

Am I asexual (ish?) or is it just.. something else? I have bipolar/social anxiety disorder so I've started to think it might be related to that..

>>6209

My friend deals with the same problem (haha. Kylee, is that you?), and with her it's almost certainly 100% her social anxiety. She said it was months before she even let one of her boyfriends feel her up. She's so self-conscious about stuff like that.
You certainly don't sound asexual. If you were, you wouldn't have any sexual stirrings like you describe. I think you're just dealing with some anxiety issues.

I'm thinking of eventually getting a vibrator but I'm a bit nervous about my parents finding out. I finally had an orgasm I could actually feel last night using an old massage mat I had for my back and I want to use something smaller. What's the best way to approach this topic with them, especially with my mom?

>>6222
Approach it the simplest way you can: You need what you need and it's not negatively affecting her.

>>6222
why ask her at all? If you have money for one, order it online and have it shipped to a friend or something. Or get your own secret PO Box. That's why I did for various reasons (Christmas gifts, bank overdraft notices that I don't need to be bitched at about, etc)

>>6222
You might want to go to an adult store instead of ordering online if you're worried about your parents. Make sure, either way, that you get a quiet model since you live at home still.

I'm renting from my dad and he's inquired about boxes I've had delivered that could be labeled "massager" or "novelty" and I've told him that it's none of his business. He knows not to go into the top drawer of my dresser because I've reassured him that I'm an adult, I'm not doing anything illegal, but I need my privacy on some things. Remind them that knocking and waiting for a reply before opening the door is a good idea.

If your parents snoop and do find anything chances are they won't bring it up because it's just as embarrassing for them to find their daughter's toy as it would be for you to know they found it.

If by chance they do ever bring it up just say you're an adult, and you'd rather not get pregnant by fulfilling yourself with a guy. That generally silences them.

I consider myself kind of lucky, my mom bought me my first massager when I was 16 so I didn't go getting sexually active as a teen like my sister did. But when I moved to my dad's I had to go over this stuff. At one point he was failing to respect that my room was private when I was out of the house. I stopped that by leaving a dildo on my desk to freak him out.

>>6222
If you're too skeered or too underaged to go to a sex store, you can get all kinds of "massagers" of various levels of deniability in the health section of any largeish store - I've seen brand-x pocket rockets at freakin' Walgreens, although they were next to the condoms. They won't be the sexiest-looking, but still effective (and a lot cheaper, actually).

>>6243
This is true, once ran into a wall plug one in a dollarstore for $5.

>>6223
>>6237
>>6243
Thanks for the help, I feel more comfortable about this topic and I'll probably go with going to a store to get what I need.

>>6237
Your mom sounds awesome. I was extremely sexually frustrated in my teens, but really bad at masturbation. So I got me a boyfriend instead. ...yeah

My mother has sometimes given me lingerie, like this hot corset etc... But never sex toys. Although I am bad at hiding my toys, so sometimes she's stumbled upon them. Awkward, but nothing too bad.

>>6249
My mom actually owns a 1950's vibe that was my grandmas and will one day be mine. We're pretty cool about that kinda shit in my family. Think is loud and scary as all hell, it has cooling fans.

>>6252
Pics? I wanna sett a vintage vibrator

>>6253
*see

>>6253
This isn't the one we have, but the model is pretty much the same. The family one has no attachments any more and is that tacky turquoise color the 50s seemed to have everywhere.

>>6255
That's frigging terrifying. I wouldn't put that in my vagoo if you paid me!

okay so I probably would. I like money.

>>6255
What the Hell, gimme that thing and a 10% solution of Clorox, I'll go for a ride.

>"man im bored."
>scroll past random GROW UR DICK 4 FREE add
>"wonder what it feels like having shaved balls..."
>half an hour later
>OH GOD THIS THIS WAS THE WORST IDEA EVER

>>6263

>>6259
Just outt of curiosity, but is there anything you wouldnt?

I'm thinking about learning to make molds for silicone.

I desperately want a bullet vibe embedded in a spider...

Fuck you brain, I'm not a fuck who wants to use animals (seriously, ewww), but you make me want to get raped by giant spiders. Damn old monster movies, comics and already having a thing for being tied up/sedated and threatened. I blame you for this.

>>6269
Just be sure to use protection, man.

You should keep an eye out around Halloween - they make some pretty enormous decorative spiders, and some of them are nice and fuzzy.

>>6272
I love these PSA ads. Do you have the one with the dude and the scorpion?

>>6243
I won't lie. Closest thing I've ever owned to a real vibrator is a neck massager I bought at Marden's. It was three dollars.
Works damn well, too. Looks kinda like an alien ray gun, but it gets the job done.

>>6272
Thanks for the laugh and advice, I'm just trying to come to terms with what a sick fuck my particular fetish makes me from an outside view. I know it's fucking off on many levels. Oh well.

>>6269
Would a life-sized scorpion fare you well in the meantime? It's an arachnid, at least. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=18699

My friend has one- loves it for pulling pranks, although she's never said how well it works at its intended purpose. Reviews are favorable, though!

>>6282
Well I know what I'm buying.

I need some help removing some of my hair to be comfortable down below. I can't get to the area with scissors or a razor because it's around the anus and between the legs and waxing would probably not be a good idea. What's the best was to remove them?

I've been experimentimg recently with things in my butt. I'm enjoying myself, but the problem is that it's very hard to manuever things back there. Reaching all the way around is uncomfortable and I don't get very much movement out of it. Any tips?

>>6269
I want to learn to cast silicone, too!

Also... tied up and sedated? Um, like, what are you up to later?

>>6302
Good old disposable razor. Try to find one that doesn't have a billion blades on the head- thinner/smaller razors are the easiest to manuever in crevices.
Use a new blade a couple times before you put it near your nethers- you're more likely to slice yourself accidentally with a brand-new blade.
Go slow, take your time. Don't pull too hard on the razor.
Don't be afraid to check everything out with a hand mirror (or an elaborate system of mirrors) beforehand.
Shaving down below gets pretty invasive- be prepared to spread yourself with one hand for as long as it takes to get everything trimmed.
I tend to go against the 'grain' of the hairs, which leads to a smoother finish (in my experience). Done improperly, though, this can lead to ingrown hairs, which are still rare and only minor annoyances. You can usually tweeze them out.
Treat the area with lotion or a moisturizer afterwards. Not only does it make everything smoother and softer- the lotion tends to prevent the hair from growing back in as quickly.
If you even entertain the notion of using aftershave down there, you probably shouldn't be trusted with razors in the first place.

>>6332
I have a weird permastubble down there from doin' it wrong. Can I fix this?

>>6332
Do you have any lotion recommendations? I would like to eliminate the horrid BIKINI BUMPS

>>6336
- Are you shaving with or against the grain? Shaving with the grain tends to lead to stubble, because the razor can't get at the root of the hair.
- When was the last time you changed your blade or bought a new razor?
- Do you use long, sweeping strokes, or short ones? Short strokes tend to be more effective in clearing the thatch, as it were.
- Try soaking in a hot bath for a while before you shave. The hot water softens the hairs and makes them easier to shave away. Some people also have success with rubbing in hair conditioner all over the area- again, to make the hairs softer.

>>6340
Cetaphil and Eucerin are my go-to brands, but any plain non-scented super-moisturizing lotion does the job. Get a lotion that works well for your skin, and preferably one that's light and non-greasy so you don't end up with weird residue on your undies. Make sure you rub it all in, too- the lotion can't just be sitting on the surface of your skin.

Sup Sextalk.

So I recently discovered that I'm a huge tease. I love the game of flirting and getting someone to be attracted to you, but as soon as they express interest I lose all of mine.

I've noticed I do this with everyone. Teachers, casual friends, strangers at the coffee shop. It's the thrill of "oh shit should I be doing this" mixed with "I wanna win"

Feels really bad, man

I have a question about erections.

I'm writing a smut fic, and it's guyxguy, but I'm having a little trouble, owing to the fact that I am not personally familiar with male anatomy.
I just want information on the average male and erections.
1. How long can it take for a man to get from completely flaccid to as hard as they can get? Like, minimum time, maximum time- approximate.
2. How long can it take for an erection to go away after ejaculation? Again, approximate.

And yeah, that's all. I'm sorry I don't have a penis. If you have any vagina-related questions, I'd be glad to answer.

Has anyone used this / heard of it used?

I know it's designed for couples, but would be using it without a partner be worth the price (approximately $80) or effort of obtaining it? I'm mostly taking into consideration the external stimulation coupled with small to moderate sized insertion. I'm not exactly up on the sex toys scene, but it caught my eye, and the idea is appealing.

Necrobumping to ask a serious question.

I'm turned on pretty easily by just talking with my partner, and masturbate/fantasize fine. However...
I'm really, really turned on when my bladder's full. Like, porn doesn't turn me on at all unless I have to pee. I haven't yet managed to reach the same high with anything else than I have when I need to urinate. It's not the thought of urine, mind you, but the feeling of a full bladder that turns me on.

The problem with this is that I don't find urine PLAY very arousing. People wetting themselves, golden showers, pee in general in the bedroom = eeeeh.

Do you guys have any advice on how to bring this into the bedroom without ending up pissing everywhere? Is there a name for a bladder fetish that doesn't involve the urine itself?

My goodness I am suddenly very aware of my acousticophilia...Anyhow, on the subject of fetishes, is there a name for getting really aroused when seeing signs of fear like swallowing, or sweating, etc.? Or is that just considered something like sadistic?