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4214 No. 4214
Because this thread is always relevant.
Discuss toys, positions, private parts, fetishes and pretty much everything else circling around ze sex.

Don't be shy - We all are crazy perverted faggots here. Just keep it mature and civil!
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>> No. 4215
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Obviously I remade this thread because I need to know something. I got a question about dem sex toys. Since my knowledge about proper sex toys is completely theoretical so far I will have some stupid questions - Be aware.

Sooo, I've been looking at some vibrators online and these fellas (pictured) popped up. I don't know the English term for them but apparantly, they are for vaginal stimulation without actually being inserted. Some kind of massage thing, I guess?

Now I want to know, ladies: How do these exactly work? Which parts are stimulated? Are they recommendable?
>> No. 4220
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So here and there, I feel sexually frustrated.

I lack a girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever as ya'll may or may not know.
I can't masturbate because this house of mine is jam packed 24/7.
That and I'm not the type to masturbate, it's just weird to me.

What the hell is someone like me to do. God damn.
Maybe I'm just fucked for now and I just need to deal with it.
... excuse the unintentional pun. Psh.
>> No. 4222
>>4215
Looks like it'll just stimulate your clit. Good if you have that weird fear of insertion like I do.

>>4220
Just curious, but weird how? I keep hearing this from people and personally it's hard to wrap my head around because I am all for whacking it.
>> No. 4226
>>4220
I don't know, I guess I'm weirded out by the idea of touching myself.
It's not that I'm self concious or anything, I mean, I'm happy with my self image.
But it's just like... I don't know, I can't explain it.
I've done it before and it was nothing but awkward to me.
I'd prefer to be touched by others.

Or maybe there's something wrong with me. Who knows.
>> No. 4231
>>4222
I can see what Dinosaurs means. It's weird because I can be aroused by looking at porn and stuff, but actually putting my hands where my junk is literally does nothing for me. Looking at sexy things online is the only thing that actually relieves sexual frustration for me.
>> No. 4232
>>4226
>>4231
Well I can say that I don't like to masturbate either - At least not with my hands. Hence why I'm looking at different toys online now to find something to relieve myself with when Chi's not around. Looking at porn helps, but only temporarily.

Dudes, there are so many ways to enjoy sexuality that you shouldn't worry if one thing or the other isn't your thing. You can always try something new. As said, maybe toys - There are tons, from stuff you insert over massaging ones to fleshlights. And if you don't want to jack off, that's okay too. Try something else.

Regarding places with privacy - You always got the shower.
>> No. 4250
Haven't had sex with the boyfriend in a month (as we're not living together yet and our schedules conflict, we sometimes only get to chill once a week). Feelin' like I need me some happy naked funtime with the Scoutpapa, somethin' fierce. That's totally normal, right?
>> No. 4251
>>4250
Ahyup. Same for me at the moment, actually - Since my brother now lives at home and Chi is mostly only there on the weekends when my brother isn't at work, stuff gets complicated. I'm not keen on having my brother listen next door while I moan my heart out.
>> No. 4253
>>4251
Totally the same way, Papa's still living with his mom and little sis and while his mom is out almost all the time, his sis is ten and we don't want her around while we're trying to be cute and nekkid-cuddly.

(Also does nothing for my self-esteem when his sister's around, because I'm almost a decade older than her and she's seven inches taller than me.)
>> No. 4256
I can't figure out why a pillow works wonders while my hand does not. It feels more intense, but I can't get any release that way. Is it just a matter of skill?
>> No. 4258
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I'm a virgin. I bought a vibrator with the smallest girth I could find, put a load of lube on it, and I still couldn't get even the tip in without being in a catastrophic amount of pain. Not the 'oh my skin is ripping' kind of pain, but the 'I feel a ton of pressure on something inside me and it's going to burst' kind. Is it supposed to feel that way?

I'm a petite woman so I figured I'd be uncomfortably small down there, but this is a bit insane. Am I doing it wrong? Maybe pushing from the wrong angle or something?
>> No. 4267
>>4256
Most likely, yes. I can't tell you about direct practices though, sorry - Try more is all I can say. Experiment with different ways of rubbing and touching. Continue doing what feels good.

>>4258
That might as well be your hymen (if you don't do sports, because if you do, it might already be broken). I felt a lot of pressure from it before it broke too. I tried to insert something again from time to time until it worked. Basically, if you don't feel like it's direct ripping pain, but more of a barrier you can't get through - Try to gently push further. Stop once it hurts too much. Repeat from time to time. Be gentle and relaxed while you try.
>> No. 4292
Okay, so- short version: Is it normal, after a breakup, to start crying during masturbation/after an orgasm? And is there any way to prevent it from happening?

And the tl;dr version: I got dumped pretty abruptly over the holidays. He and I had been really good friends for a few years before we got involved; he was the only person I've ever been able to really talk to about all of the sexual abuse I went through when I was younger, and all of the abusive relationships I got into afterwards. He helped me to work out a lot of my depression and crippling self-esteem and abandonment issues, and I fell for him pretty hard, so I was completely overjoyed when he asked me out. And it was amazing for the few months we were together. I
loved him more than anything, and in all honesty I still do. He broke it off because he just wasn't in love with me.

We're back to being BFF-y and all now, but I'm definitely not over him yet. Which brings us to the point in question- every time I masturbate, I end up thinking about him (we only had sex, like, four times before he broke it off- for the most part the relationship was long-distance- but it was consistently fucking amazing) and I'll either start crying somewhere in the middle of it, or immediately after I start coming down from an orgasm. It's starting to get aggravating. Is this normal, or at least not something I should get too concerned about? And is there any way to stop it from happening?

Bringing this to you guys because I have nobody to talk to about things like this besides Mr. Ex, lololololol.
>> No. 4293
>>4292
It can be, I went through the same when my first bf broke up with. It's part of the feelings of rejection and gets better with time. I advise just crying if you have to cry cause it might help you work out that emotion sooner.
>> No. 4353
Okay, little embarrassing to admit this, but here goes - I'm 20 years old, and, before earlier today, I had never really masturbated before. I tried it for the first time, and it felt good when I was doing it, but my nether regions felt kinda funny hours later. Specifically, I got some kind of mild pain in my lower abdomen, like a period cramp (even though I already had mine earlier this month). Is this normal for some people? Did I do something wrong?
>> No. 4356
>>4353
I'm not sure. Might just be your body not being used to the masturbation. If I were you, I would just try it again and see if it happens again the next times. If it doesn't you got nothing to worry about.

Also do you guys have some more recommendations for vibrators? My ladyparts could use a bedside friend when Chi isn't there.
>> No. 4367
>>4356
http://www.bigteazetoys.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=190&Itemid=184

I owned 6 other vibes but when I got this the rest went in the trash, aside from the one that plugs directly into the wall. For the size this one is crazy powerful and has some really nice vibration settings,
>> No. 4375
>>4353
Nah, I don't think that's anything to be worried about. I get almost the exact same thing, the mild-period-cramp feeling a bit after a really strong orgasm. My best guess is it's the muscles being sore from more exercise than they're used to.
>> No. 4414
Okay, I've been saving up questions for this thread for a little while.

First one: I got the Icicles No. 24 (pink glass tentacle-shaped dildo Marty posted in the previous thread) right when it came out and I looove it. But now as I'm trying to round out my toy collection I find myself wanting something along the same lines in texture and aesthetic but in silicone (or quality rubber) rather than glass. A friend pointed me to aliendildos.com and they look really nice but I am not willing to shell out over $200 for a non-vibrating dildo unless it also does household chores and feeds children in third-world countries. So, any suggestions? Something heavily textured, on the soft side, and, um, with an alien-related sort of look...? Don't judge me this is a nonjudgmental thread.

In addition if anyone can recommend a particular anal starter set that'd be pretty rad. There are too many options to choose from!

And finally. What exactly does it take to get into the sex toy designing business? Is it a field where you have to be an entrepreneur or can you start by working at already existing companies? What sort of qualifications would be helpful? It's just an idea I'm toying with (no pun intended) but I have to admit not really knowing much about the business. Not that I expect anyone else here to either but it's worth asking, right?
>> No. 4420
Does anyone have advice for first time dildo users?
>> No. 4440
>>4420
I do! Is anyone surprised? No.

First off, choosing your toy. Do you already have one? Do you know what you like vis-a-vis insertables? If you don't, I strongly recommend that you hit down the produce department of your local grocery store. Yes, seriously. Fruit and veg are much less expensive than official dildos, sparing you the hearbreak of dropping money on something that you'll never use. I know a lot of first-time dildo buyers grab toys that are FAR bigger than they will actually enjoy; your eyes can be bigger than your hoo-ha. Also grab some condoms, in a separate shopping trip if you must, but rubbers are important here. Anyhow, just select any carrots, zucchini, okra pods, whatever looks like it might be fun. Take them home, scrub them a bit, wrap them in rubbers and go to town. Fool around. See what feels good. It is perfectly fine if you giggle like a kid at this juncture.

When you first use a toy, whether vegetable or otherwise, go easy on yourself. Have you been using your fingers on yourself for a while? Finger yourself for a bit, first. I know the temptation when confronted with a new toy is just to GO FOR IT, but take it slow.

Once you know the kind of thing that you like, I suggest that you make note of length, girth and curvature. Decent sex toy sites will allow you to search and sort by size. I suggest www.SexToyFun.com for less expensive first ventures into dildory, and www.GoodVibes.com for an investment purchase, such as a silicone dildo that will last you for years.
>> No. 4444
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I got a dildo (A beginners dildo apparently) at a tuberware party and I'm nervous to use it in fear of pain.
Hell, with all my kinks, I'm still nervous to stretch myself. Am I kidding myself? Is it really that painful? Am I overthinking and worrying too much?
>> No. 4457
>>4440

Thanks!
>> No. 4458
Blowjob advice: provide it.
>> No. 4460
>>4458
Wrap your lips around your teeth, it's important. Also don't be afraid to vary speeds and pressure. And use your tongue.

I tend to start slow, blow lightly on the tip before touching it, to tease him a bit. Then do some licking, the area on the underside of the head where it connects to the shaft is super sensitive for licking. Might want to massage his sack at the same time. Then I either get right in and deep throat (make sure the angle is right or you'll seriously vomit), or do some half bobs that give me room to swirl my tongue around the head when it's out and down the shaft when it's in. Depending on how you feel about hair, then you could also suck lightly on his sack. You and also hum a bit as he's in your throat if you do deep throat. Just keep it varied so he's not getting to used to one sensation for to long.

I think I may have had to much practice...
>> No. 4464
>>4444
It's all about relaxation. Paradoxical but true- if you're not afraid it's gonna hurt, it probably won't hurt. Are you a lady anon, or a man anon? Either way, play with yourself externally, first. Get warmed up. Finger yourself, and use plenty of lube. Take deep breaths, and don't rush yourself. Don't make Use That Dildo the goal of your personal time- wanking is not a standardised test, so whatever makes you happy (even just getting off while looking at the dildo and wondering how it'll feel) is a success. You'll have a fine time.

>>4458
What Babby said, and don't be afraid to switch out for a handjob for a short while if your jaw is getting tired. Touch the head of his cock with your tongue, blow lightly on his shaft, make it look like you're teasing him- you don't have to dislocate your jaw, and he doesn't have to know you're not just teasing him all sexy-style.
>> No. 4469
When i was with my past boyfirends, everytime we haD sex, i never enjoyed penetration. it always felt insanly wierd to me for some reason and it hurt everytime. i let them becaue they enjoyed it and that alone satisfies me.
but when i watch my porn i always love watching DP stuff.
anyone else Like this?
>> No. 4488
>>4469
I've always been into watching DP, even though I always said to myself that I wouldn't even go near doing anal. (Now that Scoutpapa's had his fingers in my ass, I realize it isn't a bad idea.) Maybe it's a "wanting what you can't have" thing.

On a related note, ever since I started having sex with Scoutpapa, I can't get off to porn. It doesn't turn me on because it isn't him. Also, I can't even make myself orgasm with intensity close to what he gives me. It's wierd, but I like it.
>> No. 4516
>>4460
>>4464
Thanks and thanks. I've got a good pile of experience but I was wondering if any of you fine ladies and gents here on the chan had anything new to offer. I know by most dudes' logic ANY head is good head, but sometimes I feel like I could be better at it. The boyfriend tells me that I give the best head ever but I'm still insecure.

New topic: public sex. Have you done it/would you be comfortable doing it? I feel like a dirty whore when I think of the number of times and the variety of places I've done it.
>> No. 4520
>>4516

No, partially because I'm worried what people will think, and partially because I find being walked in on a turnoff/phobia. It takes a lot for me to have the courage just to show my partner my body.
>> No. 4565
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>>4516
I'm too much of a pussy for that. I need the security and comfort of my home to get it on.

In other news, I'm more hyped about this thing than I should be. This thing is called OhMiBod and features vibrations that follow the music you put into the thing via your MP3 player of choice. This caters to my sound- and voice fetish like crazy. I definitely have to look into buying it once I've made my first experiences with vibrators in general.

... Resisting the urge to put Engie's domination lines onto it will be hard. Perry is a goddamn creeper.
>> No. 4568
>>4516
I don't want to receive anything in public except maybe a hand job, but I'd love to go down on someone in a changing room or something.
>> No. 4576
>>4565
I've heard bad things about durability. As in, it breaks crazy fast.
I shrug, though, as I have no personal experience.
>> No. 4580
I'm constantly touching myself because I find my discharge and pubic hair annoying. I often have to take a moist tissue and stick it up there to clean myself out and have to shave and pull the hair out with tweezers. I hate feeling wet, sticky and have things rub and stuck to me. Does this make it easier or harder to become stimulated by a toy or, eventually, someone else?
>> No. 4587
http://www.collegesexadvice.com/masturbation-mistakes.shtml

Hilarious. Poor bastards.
>> No. 4595
Advice for someone who has never been fingered but is ready to with bf? I've never done it to myself, ought I to do that once or twice before? Any advice AT ALL will be greatly appreciated. I'm just a little nervous.
>> No. 4606
>>4595
Make sure his nails are clean, cut and filed smooth. I've had a bf slice me open with his ratty, dirty nails. Otherwise just be ready to direct him.
>> No. 4607
>>4595
Test the waters, see what you like, as in speed, depth, etc. Also, take it slow at first, don't just let him be all "Whoo, two fingers!" because it might be uncomfortable.
>> No. 4617
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>>4606
Ewwwwww
>> No. 4623
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>>4606
>slice me open
>my face

>>4607
Okay c: I guess it's nothing to be nervous about doing myself... I don't know why the thought weirds me out more than another person doing that.

Another thing...hair? Is it disgusting to people? What do people usually do?
>> No. 4625
>>4623
I shave it, but more for hygiene reasons than for a pretty display. And I like to leave a little strip so my partner isn't vaguely reminded of paedophillia...

>>4606
Oh, that's happened to me before. Though his nails aren't in bad shape, he was just clumsy I guess.
>> No. 4627
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4627
Just out of curiosity, on the off-chance that there are any straight men on this chan, or people who can act as mouthpieces thereof:

Red wings. What say you?

My last boyfriend, y'see, was totally fine with it. I was super worried that he'd think it was completely repulsive, but he actually didn't at all mind - nor was it preferable to sex at any other point in the month.

Current boyfriend, however, is BIGNO.jpeg. Not that I mind, there are other things to do. But it's interesting seeing the different attitudes.
>> No. 4640
>>4625
Okay, I'll do that. I guess this is getting a little OT but is there a product you recommend? I've shaved a little before for a costume but a couple days after I acquired what I have learned are dubbed "bikini bumps". Any way around that?
Thanks, btw. I don't know why I feel more comfortable personally ASKING these things on a TF2 porn site than googling or asking a friend or something.
>> No. 4642
>>4640
Ooh yeah I've had those. Basically just get a high-end razor with 'bout 5 blades (four is okay but I wouldn't go lower than that), the one I've got is a Venus Embrace by Gilette, it's kinda expensive but it's worth it. Shave in the shower with the water running, or use some kind of moisturising gel (basically acts as shave cream but won't burn you into oblivion).
Also remember to always moisturize after shaving.
Voila! Your genitals are now beautiful like a topiary.
>> No. 4646
>>4627
I usually feel very ill during mine, so sex is just out of the question. And my partner's not cool with it either, so yeah.
Also, that image reminds me of when I told my friend that I'd gotten 'red tide'. She thought I'd meant I'd gotten food poisoning from fish. =x
>> No. 4652
>>4642
Excellent! As for the use of the actual thing, would you recommend disposing after one use? Or are there ways to milk it before the inevitable dump?

last question I swear
>> No. 4653
>>4652
Oh, with the good quality ones you're not even supposed to throw them out after a single use! I'd use mine around 8-10 times before it started to get blunt. You'll be able to tell if a razor's blades are going blunt because they'll pick at the hairs instead of slicing cleanly through them. And even then, I'd still use the razor on my legs and such.
>> No. 4654
>>4653
Oh and when I say good quality I mean theez http://www.gillettevenus.com/en_US/products/disposables/embrace_disposable/index.jsp

You keep the handle and buy replacement heads.
>> No. 4674
>>4627
Scoutpapa's generally fine with it, he just doesn't like his face there when the floodgates are open.
>> No. 4680
>>4653
>>4654
Ahh, gotcha. That's great you can recycle them for leg use, I am the cheapest and look for every way to save money.
Thanks a ton, you have no idea how much seemingly simpler you've made my life lololol
>> No. 4688
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4688
I seem to have a problem with premature ejaculation....but only with masturbation. During actual sex, so long as I'm not topping, I can last for an hour+, but when I'm just fapping, I can barely last more than 10 minutes, tops.

wat do
>> No. 4696
>>4688
Seriously 10 minutes is fine. I wouldn't call it premature at all.
>> No. 4700
>>4688
So? That's perfectly okay. If you want to last longer you might as well start out with touching other parts of your body before you get down to the actual business. 10 minutes is a perfectly okay time span and as long as you have fun, it's nothing to complain about. No worries.
>> No. 4799
So, I'm going to out and say it, my bf has a few... issues. He's at times unable to finish off, He's been poked and prodded and the doctors have no clue what the issue might be. He also has the libido of a slug atm. We've had sex once in 4 months. He's said it isn't me and that he's just like this some times.

I'm just wondering if anyone's had this happen in a relationship that's been long term. I don't know what to do, but I'm getting a tad sick of just cuddling.
>> No. 4800
>>4799
My relationship is that "problem" in reverse. My husband is always in the mood, while I'm lucky to be frisky a few days every month. It doesn't help that I have a few unresolved problems involving sex being incredibly painful for me a lot of the time, so I am usually not too crazy about that aspect of things. However, I've been married for nearly 2 years and have been with my husband for going on 8, so despite what Dan Savage says, it is possible to have a loving long term relationship when the partners have different sex drives.

Does your BF make any sort of compromises with you? I'll often fool around with my dude even when I'm not particularly in the mood for it, because I love him and I like seeing him happy, and making him feel good makes me happy, even if I'm not particularly getting any sort of sexual thrill out of the act.

Sometimes I feel like porn has conditioned people to feel like if they don't have a straight-up orgasm at the end of it then it is a wasted experience, which is not true. There have been several times when either of us haven't "crossed the finish line" but we had a good time anyway, and as long as you're not treating it as something horrible or something to be ashamed of, it's not really a big problem. Everybody has off days.

If he says it isn't you he's probably telling the truth.
>> No. 4801
>>4800
It's reassuring to know this isn't just us. He doesn't really go out of the way, but I think it's cause he knows that it would make me uncomfortable. The can get hard but I don't want to leave him with blue balls when I know that's part of the result.

We're pretty amazing together in every other way, and that's one of the major reasons I can't bitch to much.
>> No. 4846
This is completely embarrassing for me because I don't talk about sexual things with anyone but my boyfriend butttttt is there any company out there that anyone could/would suggest for purchasing a strap-on?

I'm completely stupid when it comes to anything other than typical missionary but my boyfriend thought it might help me enjoy sex more. I figured I might as well get over the awkward phase and ask.
>> No. 4849
>>4846

It's a shame we don't have the little flags on our posts anymore. If we did, we'd know which country to make recommendations for.

Where are you?
>> No. 4851
>>4849
It is a shame indeed. I'm in the U.S.
>> No. 4883
my special guy has a foot fetish, can anyone help a female anon out?
>> No. 4886
>>4883
... How? You haven't given us any info to base help on. First of all, what do you think of it? What does he want? Does he want to do something with your feet? Just touching them, massaging, or does he want to outright fap at them?
>> No. 4887
>>4886
well where are the general zones that I could focus on to give him pleasure during a foot massage? also how a foot job should be done right would be a great help too.
>> No. 4892
>>4887
I had an ex into feet. As far as I know toes and soles seem to be the main attraction, so do your guy a big favour and slather those fuckers in lotion then stick em in socks or slippers. Try not to go bare foot as it'll rough em up. Don't take it to extremes however, to much lotion can cause super sensitivity in the skin and make walking hurt. Depending on if he likes em in his mouth or not nail polish might be an option. Also if you're around him in just socks, try to plan for semi transparent knee high nylons just to be a tease. Also toe rings.

As far as foot jobs go there just remember soles and toes are the main show, so sliding him between your arches is a good starter, you can also use the space between your big toe and the next down to give soft pinches to the head. Just remember you're not going to be as dexterous with your feet and so start soft and then ask him if he wants harder. Communication is good if your learning. He also might get a kick out of you trying to please him so much while he steals some feet virginity.

If he's into tickling things might get complex. You will seriously need a safe word, but if you can hold out and not use it through the "oh god oww" phase then you might get some over loaded nerves and gasm out of nowhere like I did. There's a nerve running from the underside of your second to pretty directly through the genitals, so don't think he might be the only one to get anything out of it. I know that result of cumming from being tickled shocked me a bit when it happened.

Anyway, hope that helps some.
>> No. 4932
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>>4846
GoodVibes.com is your friend. They have a selection of harnesses, but I really suggest their Bend Over Beginner kit- a harness and two silicone dildos for $95, which is a bargain. GoodVibes has put a lot of thought into their product line over the years, and this is a really solid starter kit.

There are cheaper kits out there, but they are nasty. Particularly avoid any dildos that are moulded onto the harnesses, or any harness with elastic straps. If you want to buy the dildos and harness separately, the GoodVibes velvet harness is still a fair bet, and just choose any dildo that has a flared base all the way around the bottom, so that it doesn't slide out of the ring in the harness.
>> No. 4945
I feel like a whore for thinking like this. But I would probably get it on with almost any guy who's good looking enough just so I can finally get laid.
Is this normal?
Also, how weird is having fantasies about a teacher you find attractive?
>> No. 4946
>>4945
If all you want is a one nighter than no, not really anything wrong with it.
>> No. 4949
De-name fagging because this is way too embarressing to me, sorry.
I said once before I didn't care for masturbating. It just doesn't do it for me.
I felt all hot and bothered the other night though and couldn't help myself.
So I just worked with my fingers for a while. Nothing.
Then I thought to use a brush handle, and worked with that for a while. Nothing.

It went on like this for like, ten minutes.

Ugh, masturbation is definately not for me at all.
Dammit, I much prefer others over my own touch. I can't get off though due to my pathetic single status.
Or is it "not-so-single" status. My "relationship" right now is so confusing I have no idea.

tl;dr tried legitimately masturbating the other night, wasn't pleased at all.
I miss being sexed up by another, but woe is me, I can't.
>> No. 4952
>>4949
You may have been focusing on the wrong areas, most of your pleasure nerve are on the fist inch and a half/outside or very deep. If you get the urge again maybe just try clit play. I find rubbing in clockwise circles the most effective for some reason.
>> No. 4954
>>4949
Sounds like you didn't use the right techniques. Try different motions on different areas of your body. What CB suggested is already good, you can experiment with other ideas too. Google if you need inspiration. Also incorperate what makes you comfortable and relaxed - Music, a bath beforehand (you could even do it while you're in the bath if that's your kinda thing), your favorite blanket or pillow, the list goes on. Making masturbation pleasant can rely on so many factors so don't give up.
>> No. 4955
Okay, my problem isn't as much physical as it is psychological.

I am female, with a wonderful boyfriend. We've been together since last spring. Among the first thing we settled in this relationship was "no cheating, but porn is alright". Seems simple enough, no?

But I guess I'm just a slut. Even though our sex is good and I really love him, I feel a bit confined when I realise that I can't fool around. When someone flirts with me, I'm terribly tempted, but so far, I've solved it by talking about it with my bf. Because, if he knows the people interested in me, it would be harder for me the cheat on him.

I've never cheated on my former partners, but I do have a very high sex drive. My boyfriend was also a virgin when we first met, so it was a bit awkward at first...

I mean, I've promised to stay faithful, and I love him to bits, but every time I think that perhaps this relationship will be a long and happy one, I miss being able to sleep around or flirt with anybody. I should be happy to have a wonderful boyfriend, right?

tl;dr: Loves boyfriend, but wants to cheat on him. Why?
>> No. 4958
>>4932
My boyfriend appreciates this suggestion much more than I ever will, so thank you.
>> No. 4965
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>>4955
Maybe you're one of those people that just enjoy the freedom of an open relationship. On the other hand if this is new to this guy, then you might be second guessing the relationship, it's easy to psych yourself into ending a relationship because one part might not be satisfactory.

By the sounds of it it's more likely the first option and you're just Polyamorous, especially since you've talked to him about it and are doing this in the open.

I wouldn't call you a slut, like you've called yourself, some people are just happier in open relationships than feeling a lack of freedom from closed ones.

If your boyfriend is open to it then wave your poly flag high and don't ever let people tell you you that your sexuality is any less valid than theirs.
>> No. 4976
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4976
So man, I have to get this question off of my chest or I'm not going to sleep in peace.

Perry here has recently grown VERY fond of the Gunslinger. Specifically of inserting it into places.
Now she wants to mimic this in real life but got no idea how.

Can anybody suggest a sextoy or something that's safe to use that would feel similiar? You know, cold, metal, hard, the works? I'm aware that something specifically like the Gunslinger doesn't exist, but even something remotely close would make me happy. I still got my imagination after all.

So yeah ... Help please, sextoy gurus? You would make me pretty damn happy with any ideas.
>> No. 4983
>>4949
I never got off solo until I bought a vibrator.

Have you tried that?
>> No. 4987
>>4976
You could get a metal dildo and stick it in the fridge. Just watch out if you're planning on freezing it in the freeze, frost bite is easy to get on the bits and/or tongue on a fence post in winter.
>> CA No. 5029
So stubs and partner have taken a look at that 'Bend Over Beginners Kit,' and wanted to know: when GoodVibes ships, if it nice and discrete? We both still live with our parents, so receiving a box with PURPLE STRAP ON DILDO stamped on the side would be... undesirable.
>> SE No. 5148
>>4965
Problem is, he is not open to the idea of me sleeping with someone else. I've talked about this, not really "can I please have sex with someone else?", but more like "I get terribly tempted to have sex with others, but I don't want to hurt you".

Right now, I'm trying to satisfy my need with porn.

I have felt this before, in earlier relationships. But back then, I didn't have as much experience with fuckbuddies etc, so I thought that my fantasy would be better than reality, and just shrugged it off. Before I met this guy, however, I had very recently had sex with two different men I hardly knew.

I am also bisexual, and even though I'd hate to say it, I sometimes wish I had more experience with ladies.

But thanks for at least not judging me. I call myself a slut, but then again, I do not feel that slut is a bad word in itself. I just tend to think that a person, whatever gender, who is promiscous and wants a lot of sex, could be called a slut. There's nothing really wrong with that, as long as everyone involved are informed, consenting adults.
>> US No. 5181
Good Vibes' packaging isn't just discreet, it's downright boring. The return address isn't even "GOOD VIBES," I seem to recall it being "GV Inc." They know what they're doing.
>> BR No. 5183
I'm not virgin, but I never french kissed.
>> US No. 5190
>>5183
I'm the opposite, but I've only french kisses a few times with the same guy. I'm not really into it, I think mouths are gross places anyway. Then again I'm not a highly sexual person in general.
>> GB No. 5207
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>>5148
See, I'm in exactly the same boat as you, here. Or rather, was. For a few months last year I ended up in a monogamous relationship (not usually my thing at all)but what made it all the more complicated was that my girlfriend already had a girlfriend.

And THAT girlfriend had a boyfriend. It was sort of like polyamory, except... Not. What this girl had ended up with was two, seperate monogamous relationships. Where it could've been awesome and become a sort of 'love square', it ended up as a line, going me-her-her girlfriend-her girlfriend's boyfriend.

Problem was, me and her girlfriend and her girlfriend's boyfriend all wanted to fool around and be awesome, but my ex wasn't interested in this at all, and it ended up getting horribly awkward and then collapsing. Now she's a grumpy cow, and me and her (now ex-) girlfriend (and her boyfriend) are fabulous - if infrequent - fuckbuddies.

Anyway, providing you got through all of that without your eyes crossing, my point is this. Some people are built for mongamy, others are not. It's very (VERY) good of you to make an effort to stay monogamous (as I did when my ex decided she wanted a closed relationship), but as a guy who once almost-cheated on his boyfriend with me once said, 'If I want to, that's half the battle lost already'.

You should discuss this with your boyfriend some more. Heck, point out the possibility of a M-F-F threesome, he shouldn't say no to that. Another one of my exes and I had a policy (because we were both bi) of 'It's not cheating if it's the same gender'. Mainly cause she loved seeing me kiss pretty men, and I wasn't averse to seeing her making out with a girl.

tl;dr i've said nothing helpful at all oh my god
>> AU No. 5208
This is a bit of a longshot given the chan's demographic but is anyone versed in toys for men?

the kind that goes ON you not IN you. fleshlights, that egg thing, etc...
>> US No. 5212
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5212
>>5208
Tenga Egg! I want one to play with just because it looks like it could be hilarious fun. I'd like to see if it'll stick the ceiling if you throw it hard enough. I know a guy that used one who said it was better than a regular hand-job but not nearly as good as a blowjob.
>> SE No. 5213
>>5207
Thanks anyway. It means a lot to hear about the experiences of others.
>> AU No. 5215
>>5212
My god that looks like a fun... thing.
>> AU No. 5242
Contraception question!

I am not on the Pill. Is there a super-reliable condom/lube/etc. (spermicides?) combination that I can use, or would I be better off pill-popping?
>> US No. 5246
>>5242
Spermicide foam even used correctly has a failure rate of about 8%, but the TYPICAL failure rate is a whopping 26%. When stacked with a condom or other form of protection, it is still about 3-10%. Even birth control pills are not a flawless victory, but it's like 99.7% success rate, so if you stack it with a condom you'll be fine.

I would really recommend a pill.
>> DE No. 5248
>>5242
To add to the previous poster, IUS and contraceptive patches have almost the same level in the Pearl index. I'd recommend IUS specifically if you have trouble taking the pill on time and if you don't plan on having kids anytime soon.
>> US No. 5251
>>5242
To add on to previous posters, there are hormonal options that are neither the pill nor an intrauterine device. There are the shots, implants, patches (as mentioned by Perry), and Nuvaring. I personally have used Nuvaring for 5 years, and I only have to think about it twice a month (a week apart), which suits my lifestyle.

Do a little research and take into account your lifestyle when choosing a BC. There are many options, so there's probably one to suit your needs. Here is the Pearl Index, along with references, so you can have a clear idea of failure rates when researching BC. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comparison_of_birth_control_methods#Comparison_table
>> AU No. 5261
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So, I have pretty much the best boyfriend in the world. I've never met anyone with whom I'm so happy to be open about what I want in the bedroom. He has issues about hitting/choking me as hard or as often as I like to be, but that's adorable, and he tries, so I'm okay.

But I've recently realised that I don't just love touching him and him touching me because lololol I love him and he's sexy, I also really like the cock. I mean, he's tied me up and touchings everywhere and he's all "what do you want me to do now?" and I'm all "COCK. MOUTH. NOW. PLEASE I NEED YOU IN ME"

And this has been great, but I've been fantasising like you wouldn't believe recently about bringing more cock into the equation. He is understandably a little hesitant about this, but would hypothetically go along with it for me, being wonderful and all. So a couple nights ago I got super smashed and started propositioning his best mate (whose party we were at). Fortunately for my pride, the boyfriend had passed out at this point, and the best friend claims not to remember anything from pretty much the whole night. This is particularly good because I ended up kissing and feeling up aforementioned best friend (not kissing on the mouth, and not crotch-feeling), and he was completely "oh man if I was single" (did I mention he also has a girlfriend? Drunk-me is a BAD PERSON. The kind of person I swear at when they're on the television).

Anyway, I think the most important lesson I learned was that I can want to fuck another person like a mad bitch, and not love/lust after my actual partner any less. And I am glad to know this about myself. But I feel a little guilty about it, even though I told my boyfriend about all my actions (though not where my dirty little mind was the whole time), and he was surprisingly completely okay about it.


tl;dr I'm worried I'm a terrible person, and my boyfriend is going to get brilliant I-feel-guilty sex tonight.
>> US No. 5264
>>5242
Also not on the pill here, because hormonal contraception makes me fucking CRAZY and kills my sex drive.

I just use condoms and water based spermacidal lube. The lube is the important part, because a well-lubricated condom has less of a chance of breaking. Use lots of lube. Also you can have him take a hot bath once a week for extra assurance. Make sure the water is really hot. Sperm can't survive above a specific temperature (hence testicles being outside the body). It's an ancient method of contraception, though I wouldn't totally rely on it.
>> US No. 5266
>>5251
Well sprinkle my cupcake, this list is just what I've been looking for. Scoutpapa and I have discussed myself getting that five-year IUD when we save up a little money so we can not spend money on condoms and not have to worry about me getting pregnant before I even start teaching.
>> US No. 5271
Realizations: I don't like anyone. I hate being touched and find the idea of sexual relations horrifying/ disgutsing. I once had a girlfriend for a few months, never so much as kissed. Have tried to find someone more attractive than "oh she isn't ugly and I don't hate her." Unable to develop feelings for anyone past basic friendship. Occasionally look at porn, usually have little interest, like going through the motions without caring much. Is as if I have lost all drive. I used to obsess about finding someone to have a relationship with. Now I don't care. Not sure what my goal here is, just ranting.
>> US No. 5275
>>5271
I'm a little like that too. I don't think sex is digusting I'm just not really interesting in doing it with another person. Relationships seem complicated and I don't get the lovey dovey stuff real well. Maybe you're asexual? One of my teachers was like that and he was still the happiest guy I ever met.
>> US No. 5283
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Hrm, so, I'm kind of facing a small problem here. I don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend, foreveralone, whatever, so I tend to masturbate. A lot.
It used to be that when I masturbated, I would get the job done relatively fast. Nowadays it takes forever, even with toys. It used to be that I would be done during the commercials, but now I'm lucky if I manage to catch the last bit of the show.
Not only that, but NOTHING seems to turn me on anymore. I go through all the motions; look at porn, mess with myself, etc. but nothing doing. A friend suggested that I take a break, but even after a week I can't get anything going. This is all really frustrating for me, hell, I think it's gotten to the point where I'm more snappy and irritable.

So, what I want to know is, has anyone else had a problem like this? And if so, got any advice? This is all really driving me crazy.
>> No. 5335
>>5283
My good member of the chan of uncertain gender, you appear to have broken your genitals.
>> US No. 5339
>>5283
You've just desensitized yourself. Don't look at porny stuff or masturbate for a while, and you'll level back out. It may take a while, but that's the best advice I can offer you.
>> US No. 5344
>>5335
Awww jeeez, of course I managed to leave out the one bit of information that would have been the most help. Well, I'm female if that's of any use now.
>>5339
That's what I've been trying for a good week now. But still, you make a good point. I guess I'll just wait it out a little longer and hope I don't get any more irritable. Thanks, man
>> US No. 5346
>>5344
Yeah, I've been there, and last time it took me a month to go back to "normal." It's rough, but it's better than feeling nothing.
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