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>But many people have much worse problems, why should I get to complain when those people are tough enough not to?
I'mma throw a metaphor of sorts at you.
A car mechanic has two cars he needs to fix. One car is a complete wreck and won't run at all. It's missing many essential parts and is very obviously broken. The second car's problems aren't as obvious. It has all of the parts it needs to run, though they are getting rusty and need fine tuned. The car runs nicely in perfect weather on a straight road with no traffic, but breaks down when the temperature drops/rises, the terrain gets tough, or the traffic builds up.
In comparison to the first car, the second car looks great. Does that mean the mechanic shouldn't bother fixing it and tell the owner to suck it up and be grateful that the car runs at all? Of course not.
I know how you feel, Anon. I didn't seek treatment for my depression for years due to that kind of thinking. I had clothes, food, pets, and a plethora of frivolous technological gadgets while children starve to death elsewhere, how could I possibly complain or feel the least bit sad?!
But that's not a healthy, rational, or hell, practical way of handling your problems or emotions. You may think your troubles are petty or small, but what really matters is how they impact your life and affect you emotionally.
If something or someone is making you feel miserable or affecting your life/behavior in a negative way (say, you are so nervous around strangers that you simply avoid leaving your house, even when you need groceries), that is a very real, valid problem, and you have every right to complain. If your depression is caused by a chemical imbalance, that's obviously a real problem as well, one that you definitely should complain about so it can be corrected!
When I first began therapy, I was embarrassed and constantly apologized to my therapist for making such a huge deal out of what should have been minor issues in my life. She told me to stop trying to compare myself to other people - everyone will react to situations and problems in their own unique way - and that if something causes a major reaction out of me, it is a real and serious problem and should be treated as such.
Hopefully this wall of text makes at least a little bit of sense. I hope you feel better.
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