>>12009
Beastiality, child molestation, and rape are all things I considered more moral issues than religious ones.

Stuff like birth control only has religious reasons for opposing it (I think, I could always be wrong).

I think the reason yiffers justify furry porn is because the character is more humanoid and can talk, and therefore voids the reason beastiality is taboo. It's like "are werewolves furry" and "are vampires necrophilia/also possibly beastiality". I consider it a grey area and try not to think about it too much because it's all hypothetical anyways.

>>12009

Define "Deviant", but only once you've defined the point from which these behaviours deviated from.

And you can't just say normal sexual behaviour only includes sex for procreation, because just about every species of animal gets up to shit that would put your uncle's christmas orgy to shame

>>12158
well then you've clearly never met my uncle.

>>12158
Deviant meaning the things you would consider "abnormal".
Like, some say homosexuality is deviant while others say it's natural... etc.

>>12164
the term is utterly fucking meaningless tho

you are trying to make an objective chart/graph/something based on something which is inherently subjective, and that is impossible

(and like novichok said, pretty much every "deviant" sexual behavior takes place "in nature")

(also, HUMAN BEINGS ARE PART OF NATURE THEREFORE IF HUMAN BEINGS DO A THING IT TAKES PLACE IN NATURE)

(we are not magical aliens who exist separate from the planet which bore us)

>>12170
It being subjective was the point.
To try and narrow it down to a single set of systems for all peoples would be silly, but there's no harm in crating a simplified spectrum based on certain common definitions.
Definitions like religion, consent, or even anarchic free will/having no limit at all.

>>12171
Oops. No more anon for me.

>>11576
HOLY FUCK, EVERYONE SHOULD BUY THIS. It was worth every fucking goddamn cent. I'm usually not able to obtain orgasms due to my shy nature, but this thing is... holy crap. It's small (easy to hide), quieter than a vibrating phone (on the lowest setting, which I usually use), and POWERFUL! Perfect, perfect, PERFECT. One thing, though - it'd be better if you shaved your pubes before trying it out because they tend to get stuck somehow, so, yeah.

It also came in a pretty nondescript package - my MOM was the one who received it, and she was all, "Hey, _____, something came for you - what is it?" and I was all, "Oh, my <something related to video games>! Thanks mom!" Took a few days before I got up the courage to use it, and months before I achieved my first orgasm with it (not due to the device - I was just really cagey about putting it to use).

For me, though, I find it helps to be patient. When you first press it against yourself it's like kanckrfvkrf oooooohhhhhhh...." But that wears off for a while, which is when I would usually give up before. DON'T DO THAT. Keep going - just rub it against yourself or even keep it stationary as you watch porn or something. Usually, for me, the orgasm comes from NOWHERE and hits me like a truck of hot, oily, naked babes in the VAGINA.

>TLDR: BUY THIS SHIT

So I was on Literotica.com earlier, and happened to notice a little logo in the corner. "Share this story on Facebook."

Ummm, how about no? Who actually shares their porn on fbook?

>>12208
I do, with the permissions set so my family and stauncher friends don't see it.

Usually coupled with a comment about how ridiculously contrived the plot is or how funny a certain line is.

I had a disagreement with my friend recently and was wondering your opinions on it.

See, my sex drive's always been low and single-focus on one person I'm really super attracted to. So someone suggested I was demisexual (an offshoot of asexuality, where you only want to have sex with people you love). And the friend disagreed, saying everyone has different levels of sex drive and that's just their thing.

Thoughts?

>>12213
I think, if you don't mind labels, demisexual is the appropriate term here from what I understand of it. Some people don't like labels, though, and I understand that too.

>>12216
I think her argument with me was that she didn't think it existed, that people with low sex drives were just people with low sex drives, there was no specific label for them.

I don't know, myself. I just...fuck, I was a really late bloomer sexually and I still don't know how to define myself. At all.

>>12219
I see. Well, there are labels out there for people of all sex drives. It seems to be a very human thing to try to put everything into a category. All that matters is whether or not YOU are okay with that label. I know, for myself, it's taken several years now to even consider the fact that I might be asexual, not because of what the word means, but because I don't like labeling myself. I'd suggest checking out asexuality.org/wiki/ when you get a chance. It's a very insightful site about the whole spectrum of sexualities.

Question: would lube help with a very large vibe? I'm talking 7" insertable length and 1.5" diameter at the widest. And it is wide in a LOT of places. (I really, really regret not double-checking the size before I bought it.) I've never had to use any lubrication before, I can get myself pretty wet and the only other insertable vibe I've ever had was a lot smaller, so I'm wondering if slicking it up will help, or if this thing is just too god-damn big to be serviceable.

>>12224
It probably would. Granted it's bit thick, but it's not like pop can sized.

>>12225
Thanks, I thought it might. It's kinda intimidating for someone whose last battery-operated buddy was only 4", but the motor is so much better than anything I've had before, I'm willing to go to a bit more trouble for it.

>>12221
I understand why you wouldn't want to label yourself- not everything's black and white. Asexuality.org's been helpful...I think it fits 99% of how I feel, but not entirely.

The other 1% really wants a sexual relationship, but something I can't entirely explain is holding me back. I've never been terribly religious, but for some other reason, I feel such immense guilt when anything sexual comes up. I feel like a creep when I look at pictures of real people naked, I can't make the jump to video porn, and I feel uneasy/can't get aroused trying to schlick with my finger (and I don't own a vibrator, I've chickened out every time I've considered buying one). I feel like unless I can get over this, sex won't even be an option.

>>12238
I feel the same way looking at porn and about sex in general and I'm not religious at all. My partner doesn't mind that I don't care for sex, but I hate that I literally blush at seeing sexual imagery or even just naked people. I'm certain you'll be able to get through this. I can tell you, from personal experience, that seeing/imagining it doesn't prepare you for the real thing. At risk of sounding cheesy, the most important thing about the real thing is that you are okay with it, want it, and don't feel pressured whatsoever; it's different for everyone and there's nothing wrong with that.

So I RP a lot, and sometimes it goes sexual. I'm not in any sort of relationship with the people I RP with, aside from rp partner/friend, nor do I see myself ever being in a relationship with them, as most of them are female, and I'm heterosexual.
I'm not saying I've never fapped to an RP, but my primary goal going into them is writing.
Now, I have a boyfriend, and he knows I RP, but I haven't outright told him "Oh, btw, I'm collaboratively writing a really hot man-on-man scene right now. Lots and lots of penises, and it is wonderful" or anything like that. He knows that people out there RP that sort of thing, and doesn't seem disgusted by it.

My question:
Knowing what you know, from the information I've given you, if you were my boyfriend, would you consider it cheating?

>>12245
This was the exact situation I had with my fiancee until a few months ago. He knew I RP'd gay sex scenes with friends and he had no problem with it. He told me it wasn't cheating unless I was actually involved with those people in real life and, like you, they were females and I wasn't interested in them. Also, our RPing had no impact on my relationship with my fiancee. Long ramble short, NO, I don't think it's cheating. But, I'd suggest telling your boyfriend anyway to get his opinion on it. Communication is a wonderful thing.

>>12245
I wouldn't consider it cheating... I'm in a similar boat on the RPING ALL THE GAY SEX front (as you well know) and the boyfriend is well aware of it and he doesn't really care. As far as I know at least.
There's a difference between writing sex scenes with people you're entirely platonic with and actually cheating on your man. If you were feeling bad about it or concerned about how he might feel, I honestly cannot see any perspective from which is would seem like cheating.

>>12245

You could think about it as, If you found your boyfriend writing lesbian scenes with another man online, how you'd react or any worries you'd have

I'd ask him if it was okay, and point out that I wasn't having actual sex or romance with these people, but a fictional character was, and I could detach myself from this character. It's like if you were an actor, and you had to have a sex scene with someone other than your boyfriend.

I think I'd feel differently depending on whether it was a close or long-distance relationship, though. If I couldn't have physical sex with my partner, and they were having lots of RP sex with other people, I'd be more pissed.

I'd ask him if it was okay, and point out that I wasn't having actual sex or romance with these people, but a fictional character was, and I could detach myself from this character. It's like if you were an actor, and you had to have a sex scene with someone other than your boyfriend.

I think I'd feel differently depending on whether it was a close or long-distance relationship, though. If I couldn't have physical sex with my partner, and they were having lots of RP sex with other people, I'd be more pissed.

>>11186
this problem.

I have this problem, but I'm the female in this case.
Thing is we tried different things, and like you and your girlfriend, we use lube and foreplay and whatnot, but I once even ended up calling in sick at work because it felt all odd and hurting and weird when I walked. It is even worse when I cycle (And being dutch, I cycle a LOT.)

We've tried different positions, and even anal.

Anal...
It took us at least 4 tries (stretching over a few months) Before I could even take anal, and to be honest, I can barely enjoy it when it comes to the actual anal sex, because it hurts too much. But it's worth it I guess. I just hope someday it'll be as enjoyable for me as for him.

I really feel guilty when we can't have sex day after day, because I'd really like to myself, but I'd even like it more for him. I feel tremendously stupid telling him it hurts too much and that I'll give him a blowjob instead. (I really REALLY enjoy giving blowjobs though, and he enjoys them a real lot as well)

TL;DR
I just wished I wasn't so fucking tight and hurting all the time and I hope there's something I can do about it?

He's a bit more than 7 inches and about four fingers broad, if that's a measurement?

OUTSIDE OF ALL THIS.

we've been windowshopping for a decent strap-on for me. I found out I really enjoy prostate-pleasuring him. Does anyone have any tips and tricks on this? Would I tire quick moving in a humping way? If so, can I train that?

captcha:
spoketa imperfect

thank you captcha those're just the words I needed.

>>11186
There's not a whole lot you can do, good sir. If she likes anal then maybe consider having more of it, if not than remember that as far as Statistics Canada is concerned most people only have sex 2 times a week. You might just be expecting it a bit too much and, as endearing as that can be, it might mean that you, like me, just have to keep that in perspective. Sex is great for sure but the waiting in between a good fuck can make it even sweeter.

In short, consider making anal more common than vaginal, or have nights where you just bring each other off orally/hands. Or, just choose not to worry about it because it's pretty normal, no matter what the penis size or how much you love each other to not get it wet for a few days or more.

>>12267
I'm sort of hesitant about this myself- I've always been so narrow that I'm scared to get a vibrator, let alone have sex.

>>12272
Don't be too worried on that end. My gyno just finally switched up from the child size speculum and I'm 25. There are many smaller vibes out there for those of us with small set bits. You have to remember too that with use things loosen slightly. So if you are really concerned about sex being to painful than start with small toys and try to figure out if you even have a hymen or not (some don't). Seriously exploring yourself and being comfortable with your own parts will make you worry less about having sex. At least it did for me even with a history of sexual assault and non penetrative molestation.

>>12275

Do you have any recommendations for smaller-sized toys? I have the same tightness problems expressed here and frankly it's quite bothersome.

Ok, for ladies toys, there's clit ones and actual insertable ones. I haven't tried all of these, they are just recommendations as far as shape and size.

G-spot:
http://www.adameve.com/sp-g-gasm-delight-g-spot-vibrator-9825.aspx One inch at widest
http://www.adameve.com/sp-waterproof-prostate-massager-9080.aspx Half inch at widest

Standard insertables
http://www.adameve.com/sp-waterproof-prostate-massager-9080.aspx Graduated width
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/bullet-eggs/sp-long-power-bullet-vibrator-13657.aspx Half inch wide

Clit
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/bullet-eggs/sp-b-onye-vibrator-14038.aspx I've owned this and it was great for using only AAs.
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/pocket-rockets/sp-adam-eve-clit-dancer-waterproof-mini-massager-15163.aspx Pocket Rockets are good for their size too, but only have one speed usually
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/wand-massagers/sp-hitachi-magic-wand-massager-9465.aspx Generally anything that plugs into the wall will be a lot stronger. I have one, but it sees little use cause the tips a bit clunky for me.

Non-vibrating
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/sp-adam-eve-crystal-teaser-glass-dildo-11498.aspx glass is good if you just want something to fill you a bit while working on the clit, this one is pretty small

I tend to avoid a lot of dildos, especially if they are made of a gel plastic, the attract dust and no matter how closed off I keep them I have to rinse them right before using and it kind of kills the mood. As far as hardness in them goes gel are the softest latex are some where in the middle, depending on mix, and glass are the hardest.

Yeah know, I am far to versed in sex toys.

While on the topic of toys, I admit that the moment I heard about the OhMiBod I've been wanting it like burning.

So my question is: What are your thoughts about this device?
Any of you who do have one by any chance, is it really as good as it sounds like?

And if I may, what would you put in the special playlist?

>>12287
i just shortly myself pursude a toy vibrator for me as i finally had the guts to go into a sexshop alone for the first time. i got quite a good advice for it (like touching it to get a feel for the different materials or demonstrated how loud they are). the saleswoman also recommended not to take as starter a gel plastic one even as i wanted to take one which i looked up in the internet. she said the same as combat babe, with addition that the things smell ever a bit after their material no matter what. so i got me a small one i saw the big ones exactly beside it. i´m not a virgin far from that still i didn´t want to start with such a big one made from a combination of silicon and tpe. the one which is also used for medical products. good to touch and feels not so plastic. which i would recommend: get yourself some lube. the best would be a non flavoured, non perfumed one. it helps to make things by the first use easier. non perfumed, because out personal experience the sudden foreign scent of it is just irritating. also look up how hard some are. some are more flexable while others tend to be more hard. for you i would say look out for something flexable and not very hard, if you find out it is just too soft for you, you can still buy a new one.

>>12304
put into the special list all the songs which let´s you tingle

whatever let´s you feel in that special mood of being slightly aroused, a bit drunk of adrenalin and thinking something more would be nice... these are the songs which i would
d put on the special list

I would call the list Hello Joe. Not because i know a Joe, but more of a song which brings me to smile ever

I watched Boku no Pico. And kind of liked it. I feel like a pedophile now - and a weeaboo yao*i fangirl, on top of that. How do I deal.

>>12369
Deleted your other post for linking that shit. FFS, Even Rule34 doesn't allow pedophile drawn stuff anymore.
DO NOT POST LINKS TO LOLICON OR SHOTACON.
I will have to ban a person for CP.

>>12371
Oh, duh. Should have figured that. Guess I was kind of thrown off by the fact that it popped up on such a mainstream site like RedTube (though it's probably removed on there, too).

Sorry about that. It was stupid. Won't happen again.

So I can't help but notice that, in a lot of Japanese porny-stuff (smut games,hentai, etc.), there's a lot of nipple biting.

I wince every time.

Thoughts on nipple biting?

>>12373
I like nipple-licking on either gender, or even taking the nub into their mouth, but I've never considered full-on biting.

>>12369
K, full disclosure time (again) from the girl with no shame.

It's not a big deal. There's no issues with simply being attracted to the taboo or fantasizing about it. The only issue you could have is disclosing thoughts about it to those who are going to freak about it or taking this into reality which would be a pretty shitty thing to do on way to many levels.

I've got my own messed up things that get me off and as far as most people I know, they have one or two things as well, even if they say they don't. Don't shame yourself over it if it's just a personal fantasy. It's your head, and you're hurting no one. Just make sure it stays that way and you're fine.

>>12375
No, they like, take the nub in their teeth and tug on it. I just sit there screaming 'WHY ARE YOU DOING THAT OW there goes my ladyboner'.

A lot of the adventure games on wetpussy.com have that in it. Not a fan.

>>12373
It actually doesn't hurt as much as you would think it does. I like it, personally, but I don't want my nipple CHOMPED ON or anything. Nipping at them and tugging on them a little is awright.
From what my experiences have told me, it's sheet-clutching, toe-curling, panting-through-gritted-teeth good for guys too.

>>12379
Wait, toe-curling for guys having it done TO them, or doing it themselves?

I think it varies from person to person, too. I've tried some nipple play when I have my 'alone time', but nothin'. Doesn't arouse me at all.

>>12383
Well not being a dude, I don't know how good it might be to do to one's dudeself, but judging by reactions it's great to have it done to you. And yeah, like most other sexual things, it's all a matter of preference.

I can tell by my experience, that one of my guys was like getting really turned on if i went for his nipple and used some teeth, while a other said: man don´t like it that much. It really varies from person to person.

Since we're on the topic of teeth, let's discuss this:

I see the phrase in pornfics sometimes, "He nibbled my clit."
Now, ladies, do we want teeth down there? personally, I say fuck no, but thoughts?

no no no NOPE NU UH

Yeah man I would ollie the fuck out

get your chompers off my special lady parts

I wondering if I could get some advice...is it weird to be a virgin at 20? Does it mean theres something wrong with me?

>>12405
Nope, not at all. I'm a virgin at 21. Mostly just circumstance and me not really feeling like trying to get laid.
(not asexual, not in the slightest, just lazy.)

>>12405
Going to be a 26 year old virgin very shortly.

>>12405
Okay nothing against you anon. But can i just take a moment here and say how sad i am everytime i see someone ask this in such a thread? Everytime i get so saddened by it. I mean i was until 21 a virgin too, until i thought i found the man for a longlasting relationship, where i can trust and love him. I was okay with beeing one until i lost it, because in all honesty i needed to get with myself in sync and went through some times of doubting myself. But i also knew i didn´t want to lose it like one classmate who just lost it on some switzer bimbo in a drunken state. I thought what i am worth to myself? Because it was my first time and i wanted to have it with someone who would thread this delicate matter as something special too.

Because now here i need to say the ultimate truth. There is a market for everything. It is not about finding a sexual partner who would want to sleep with you, but rather about a partner which you could trust and where you later don´t feel like you where just used for his needs.

It is nothing to be ashamed of to be still a virgin or to have already lost it. Like so much in your life this is a thing between yourself and YOURSELF. And yes sometimes you see in the mirror and think. Curse the world and that everyone finds someone. And than you listen to TMSI and think you rather never went over this line. There is no generell approbiate age to lose it. If others say: There is a to late, there is a to soon. Than tell them politly that this doesn´t matters to you, because you are you and not them.

Also the average japanese woman loses her virginy with 22. I hear of german teenagers who already lost it with 14. But than they just got the concept of the mechanics and the deep trust you feel with a partner to which you build up a emotional relationship is not there.

To the end you should be aware how you think your first time should be. Should it be rather with someone you have friendly feelings for (some want it like this) or you are maddly in love. Or just someone you trust.

Please just spread the word there is no wrong for still beeing a virgin with a certain age. There just isn´t. It is not wrong or bad or anything else. It just is.