Oh, yeah. I was wondering.

Anyways. Confession time. Was going to anonfag, but i had a feeling anyone I was trying to hide from would figure out this was me, anyways. Man, sometimes I hate being a Christian. Or, rather, a Christian who has a body that REEEEALLY wants some action.
Fuck hormones.

I always feel guilty for watching or writing porn and sometimes starting to masturbate, and usually just can't even finish. I end up just sitting in bed with blue balls and a headache and a huge load of guilt and shame.

I wish I could chose one or the other, but I don't WANT to. I LIKE being a Christian. It's just that I also really, REALLY want to get off sometimes, too, and it seems like there's no way I get both to coincide, and I just end up feeling really depressed for not being a "better" Christian or being okay where I am spiritually... Which isn't a great place.

I guess it's one of those things where you really want to commit, but don't have the chops, or even the desire, to do the right thing. Like going on a month-long diet, then deciding, "But I REEEEEALLY like steak..." and then wasting a week's worth of money at the nearest burger joint.

Sometimes I wonder why I even lurk here, since it's obviously not a very "spiritual" place, but I've kind of grown attached to the people here, and the art, and everything... I don't WANT to give it up, even though all things are pointing to the fact that I should. Sometimes I just don't even know what to do sometimes, guys.

I'm not here to discuss giving up my religion, because that's just not an option. Believe it or not, I actually do legitimately like it and it's helped me through a lot of tough times in life. It's just... I have no idea about the rest of my life.

>>10042

Okay i know, this is a highly risky theme, but still i´m ready to play on this field.

Why do you feel guilty? I mean i would want to know at first what your views are what you think is good and not. I heard from some christians masturbating is okay and having a sexualrealtionship without beeing married and all. But still it would be good to know how you think what the big man above would say to such things, because this really goes more in the interpretation of the religion.

>>10043
Well, the thing is that things I'm okay with for other people, I'm not okay with doing, myself. I actually don't think of masturbation as against the Bible, and while porn technically is, I wouldn't think any less of someone else who's a Christian who watches it.

It's just that I guess I abide by the whole belief or whatever that "If you wouldn't do x while Jesus was sitting in your room, don't do it at all, because he's ALWAYS WATCHING YOU ANYWAYS."

I guess, at the core, it's faulty logic since having sex while married is perfectly okay, and I'm pretty sure a husband a wife wouldn't bone in front of Jesus... that'd be kinda awkward.

But still. It makes me feel uncomfortable because I know what I'm doing is wrong. It's small, yeah, but I feel like I should be trying to move past it instead of just... wallowing in it. It's the reason why, even though I frequent the /afanfic/ section often, there's not much sex in my stories. Because I just get so bent out of shape before I can really do anything worth writing about.

Sometimes I wonder if this has anything to do with me being a Christian or if I'm just crazy.

>>10044
>>10042

When it comes to spirituality and masturbation I believe that it only becomes a problem when you let it control you. I'm not Christian (I consider myself Hindu) but I would assume that porn is only "morally wrong" because otherwise, people would forget about God and become caught up in their selfish desires. A big part of being spiritual is overcoming base feelings like lust, which is why porn is frowned upon.

However, if we want to live a healthy life we have to be mentally and physically stimulated. We must eat right, increase our knowledge, and take care of our temporary body, and if that involves masturbation than so be it. Personally I consider masturbation to be much better than illicit sex or accidental pregnancy; those just create suffering. As long as you don't let porn or masturbation become an addiction, you shouldn't be punished for stimulating the body you were given.

Hope that helps a little and wasn't too religious for the chan.

>>10044
>I know what I'm doing is wrong.

Haha no.
If it is physically ailing you to not masturbate, I'm pretty sure you should just go ahead and get your rocks off, Jesus voyeur or no Jesus voyeur.

>>10050
No, that made perfect sense - thank you. I will keep your kind words in mind. Once again, thanks for choosing to talk about something like this on the chan.

>>10051
Oh, the headache thing? Well, I get headaches all the time for a lot of different reasons. I have a tendency to teeth grind, especially. I also get them when I'm really upset, so it could just be the fact that "I let Jesus doooown!" that's giving me the headache more than actually not finishing.

I had to study Advanced Theology in ye old Catholic high school; what I took away from months of studying dogma and doctrine was that, if you're strictly following 'Jesus rules' its basically "Don't make your neighbors suffer and treat everyone with love and kindness". Keeping yourself from having a fap every now and then has nothing to do with the supposed Jesus voyeurism. Frankly, I like to think God/Jesus/Flying Spaghetti Monster has better things to do then keep tabs on our sexuality.

Besides, TwoRefined, you write some of the best dirty on the board, where would we be without you? Don't make your neighbors suffer!

In other news, I keep forgetting other people are less comfy with the strangeness that goes on here, and I linked a friend who doesn't know about this place to a picture of Medic having bloody sexytime with Pyro. The reaction was interesting.

Good news: Scoutpapa is finally coming to understand the extent of how submissive I am and he's totally fine with it.

Bad news: He's trying to get me to either a) bite him so hard it draws blood or b) choke him. I keep trying to explain that I will not do it because of personal reasons like being raped by the last person I dated, she choked me and forced me to bite her and carve my name into her stomach against my will. I keep trying to explain that I don't want to every which way I can think of, but it's not working. What do?

http://www.prostate-massage-and-health.com/over-masturbation.html
Self diagnosis isn't that reliable I know but damn, aside from the thinning hair and weak erections that does sound like me from last year. Fortunately I don't have the urge to do it as often as I used to but it I still tend to fap around three times a day, and I think it might still be zapping my energy. Trying to cut it back. I do wonder if women can have the same issues...

>>10057
Have you told him the exact reason? If he's not taking that seriously that's hella insensitive, but from the sounds of things you haven't. You might have to.

>>10058

He knows. His hands got too close to my neck in a kinda choke-y position once and I broke down crying, we couldn't have sex for a couple weeks or so without me flashing back and ending up a sobbing mess.

So this might be a tad inappropriate considering the recent previous posts, so pardon me and skip over it if it is.

Last night after 3 years of inching his hands closer my boyfriend and I tried some asphyxiation. I danno if it's cause I'd been masturbating a bit before we even started, but the all busting orgasm this caused me was a shock. It was one of those, eyes roll in the back of your head and you go blind for a few second type good orgasms.

Now I went and told him I totally approve of this and he said if there's anything I want to try on him to go ahead. Now in the past, the last guy that said this later accused me of rape so I'm not even sure what to do. Mamma loves the butt but I'm a tad weary cause I know how straight men can some how have a crisis over "does liking this make me gay".

One of the other things I'd like to try has a tendency to freak people out generally. I'd like to get some of those surgical needles and get poked.

Advice? Do I go for the butt? Do I ask to get stuck with needles? Or do I pussy up and just not?

>>10062
I've got a serious phobia of needles, so I'm not even going to suggest that one because merely thinking about it gives me the willies.

As to the butt, I think you two should maybe have an open and frank discussion about it. Encourage him to try it once, but don't force him if he's not comfortable with it. Inform him about the prostate, how it doesn't make him gay any more than getting fingered makes you a lesbian, bla bla bla.

Just talk about it with him. He might have thought about it himself for all we know. All he has to do is try it once, right? If he likes it, great, if he doesn't, you don't do it again. Simple as that.

>>10063
He could have picked up on my hinting about the butt. I'm kind of feely with the whole taint area on him. I'll have to, but despite my open talking about it here I do get a bit shy around him, even aft 3 years, when it comes to such things.

>>10064
Just so you know, I don't take offense to it. Other people's kinks don't bother me as long as they're not forced upon me, no worries.

As for advice, I say you should go for the butt. My man absolutely loves it and think there's nothing gay about it. It'd only be gay if it were a guy doing it with him.

>>10065
Went for it, we both loved it and he admitted he hadn't asked for it cause he wasn't sure how I'd take the request. I told him he was adorable.

>>10069
Aww! I'm so happy for you! Congrats! I hope you both have many nice bum-related endeavours in the future.

Okay. Just wanted to put this out there since, why not? I've been curious about this since when I was in highschool, but never really talked about it.
I don't, uh, get turned on as much as what other people seem to? I always had thought that when people would say, "hnng so hot" and "I came", in reaction to naked photographs and the kind of things you'd find on afanart, that they were kidding. Photographs and drawings just do nothing to me. I like them for their aesthetics and art, not because I'm turned on. Watching porn does get some reaction out of me, as does personal fantasies (sometimes), so it's not like I don't work. Masturbation gets some more out of me, but it doesn't really get anywhere.
Is it that I just, I don't know, not have as strong of a libido as other people do? Was I right that people really are kidding? Are most women like this?
If it helps, info-wise: I'm a virgin, too scared to buy a vibe, and identify as bi.

>>10076
Your libido just works a different way from them. No they're not kidding, a lot of people can get off to just pictures. Just seems like you need more. ;)

>>10069
Haha awesome. I'd quite like it if somebody I was with went for my butt too, not sure why so many guys have hangups about it. I'd just maybe be a little self conscious about the hairiness, but that's about it. Then again most guys have hairy asses so I doubt she'd be expecting anything else.

Half a question, half a confession, all too much information.

I've been lurking here for a few months now, writing some, RPing some with the nice folks here. I've come to really enjoy all these, ahem, manly interactions, and I even have favorite pairings and all that jazz. My browser has declared that the 'adult fanfiction' tab is my favorite place to be on this site.

Thing is though, as much as I enjoy watching/writing/reading the genitals of one fictional mercenary clashing with the appropriate orifice of choice of another, I don't 'get off' on it. Not a hint of arousal. But its an awful lot of fun, if that makes any sense. Its entertaining to me, clearly, or I wouldn't be browsing about so much.

This may or may not have something to do with the fact that I am a heterosexual female, but I'm starting to suspect that there are many ladies here.

So uh...do you get off on the adult content, or what?

>>10150
I do not get off on it.
Don't ask me why! It arouses me, pleases my dirty mind, but I don't masturbate to it or orgasm or any of that jazz.

Personally, arousal is much more of a brain thing for me than a body thing. I never get the wish to touch myself or get off. A round of a welldone sexual RP makes me happy without the physical release - Maybe I orgasm "mentally", so to speak?

I'm straight as an arrow, love dicks, and am also female. I love sex with my boyfriend. I love dicks and manly things and everything! But it's all a mental thing, and I'm fine with it.

So no worries, gal! Enjoy your RPs and fanfics. As long as you feel good, there is no harm done.

>>10151
Thanks darlin'. But I am not worried about it, so to speak, but I just find it weird that I've been staring at naked killers doing X-rated things to one another for hours without any excitement in my lady parts, and I was wonderin' if anyone else felt the same way.

Didn't Freud once say the only bad sexuality you could have was not having any?

>>10154
I have never been aroused by anything on here either.

>>10150
Well I'm a heterosexual male so yeah I don't. :p

Adventures in rimming.

So yeah more boyfriend's butt adventures, also hair pulling.

>>10198
I jelly.

Also... rather curious, any of you particularly care about how dicks curve? The impression I get is that guys who ask about it are a little too self-conscious and most girls don't really care, but hey, thought I'd ask.
Mine goes downward. I would hope it would be easier to take down a throat, and apparently it does make doggystyle feel better.

>>10202
Honestly curve doesn't matter to me, as long as it's not like at a 90 degree angle, but even then that might be interesting.

And yeah there are some benefits to a downward curve, but there are benefits to all dicks.

I think guys are a tad to self conscious about their junk, just like women are with their tits. the first guy I ever really did it with was about 2.5 inches and it didn't make orgasm worse but in some ways better since it didn't slam the cervix and was fun to suck on. I actually got a bit self conscious about if my vag was to big for him since he had a hard time cumming from actual sex.

I think everyone really needs to relax about their bodies, no one looks like the people in porn and honestly it would get really boring if they did. I'd 100% of the time rather have sex with someone with a curve or a smaller dick or anything they consider a flaw in that way that I care about, than a guy who looks perfect but I have no feelings for.

I don't think curve matters, they all do in some way and nobody's exactly the same, but so far all my... dick appreciation, has been purely visual.

I've read about women being really self conscious about the appearance of their lady-parts after watching porn, but I don't know... I'm kind of the other way around. If I'm watching porn and some woman's downstairs business looks too different from mine, I tune out, and if it's different enough, I have to stop watching completely.

It's not that it 'ruins the fantasy' or whatever, either, because I'm not trying to imagine any of the activities portrayed as happening to me. I'm not into penetration-- rather, not into being penetrated, I'm purely there for the visual. I know every vulva is different, for some reason I just get turned off if I'm presented with one that's really different from my own.

Well, guess it's healthier than developing a 'mine doesn't look like porn parts' complex...

(same with nipples, which is weird, because I have no problem with breasts that aren't like mine, or naked women whose figures are not like mine. It's entirely the nipples which have the power to weird me out there, and it's kind of awkward, because apparently my nipples are not at all average...)

You guys sound like saints. I, personally, actually don't like curve much. At all. It just weirds me out. It's purely visual, though. If I was actually having sex with a guy and he was bent, I don't think I'd mind that much, but in porn, it's enough to totally turn me off.

I hate to sound like a douchebag - I know lots of girls just figure a dick is a dick (most, judging by the comments), but I'm just not one of those girls. That's just one of those things I can't get past. Got one testicle? Well, alright. Hairy as fuck? Sure. Tiny dick? Whatever. But bent penises just squick me out.

Thought I'd go ahead and share my opinion on the matter for... ya know... research or science or some shit.

Interesting if true

>>10230
Everyone has a squick when it comes to sex, so that's normal. I've never really heard of this particular one.

The worst one I have also involves something I'm already phobic about, vomiting. My guy made the mistake of thrusting a tad to fast during oral once and I blew ramen noodle acid all over his dick. Then he had to run to the bathroom cause of the pain or spicy ramen and I cried.

On a positive note, it seems crying like an embarrassed little girl does it for some guys.

>>10233
I know by personal experience that 3 is true, at least with masturbation. It's helped me during nights where I can't sleep from congestion.

>>10233
Warning everyone against 11. Not saying it doesn't work, but have you ever had your pulse beating so hard you can hear it in your head? Yeah. I had that happen, and I have very, VERY clogged sinuses. Ended up in the emergency room.

Everyone has their favorite masturbatory methods!

What're yours?

My personal favorite is getting my crotch under the bath faucet and using my feet to adjust the heat/pressure while the tub fills, but some tubs are more comfortable/better positioned than others.

>>10258
I have done that, and nearly drowned myself by accident. My butt happened to suction itself over the overflow valve.

My preferred method is on the floor of the bathroom, on the bathmat, through my underwear. Don't know why I prefer it, but I do.

>>10258
In bed. It's comfy, even if the damn cat stares at me sometimes. It's been a bitch trying to get off at all lately though.

Can't masturbate on a bed, lord knows I've tried. Has to be some kind of hard surface, like a hard backed, non-swivel chair, or the edge of a bathtub, or so on. Since this is already TMI, I'll just say that friction and pressure plays a crucial role.

No one must ever know the real reason I've kept my desk chair since my teen years. Its more then sentimental.

>>10233
I'm a little creeped out by 13. Not the factoid, I already knew that. The art just... just really insinuates some things I am not comfortable with...

And yeah, 11... 11 technically works, I suppose, except that before it works it's way more uncomfortable than having the headache is to begin with. Not really worth it when it's so easy to take an Advil...

>>10258
Generally while seated, can't get a good angle when I'm lying on my back, though once in a while I give it a shot... So I don't go the whole nine masturbating in bed, but I will feel myself up first thing in the morning sometimes, start the day off right. Unless it's really cold out, I sleep topless, so... a little light self-fondling sometimes improves my mood whether or not I actually feel like getting off. Sometimes it's a calming thing, too.

As for the down-and-dirty masturbation, I am all about friction, and I prefer to have a layer or two of something between me and my hand. I think because when I first started masturbating it was through my panties, I don't know. Well, that and I tend to get really wet really easily... which is great in its way, except getting my fingers messy isn't a sensation I enjoy.

>>10258
My favorite is probably in my chair, pants down, with paper towels handy. Unfortunately I often forget to pull down my pants and they get soaked in jizz.

Also, instead of jerking up and down like most guys I actually rub my dick against my right leg with my left hand. I -can- do it the normal way but it takes longer and I've been doing the leg-rubbing thing since I was 8. :p
Why yes I did fap when I was 8.

>>10274
I started around that time too. Was just randomly playing with my self one night and had an orgasm or something and I was like "woah...what was that?!"

>>10275
I feel like an oddball now. Didn't start till I was 18.

But I'm female, so I don't know if that's a factor or not. Plus, I hadn't even heard of masturbation until I was about sixteen.

>>10258
I got bored of laying on my back in bed, so while I was travelling I was feeling rather randy and so I laid down in an awkward uncomfortable position bent all out of shape on the cold hard bathroom floor. Perhaps I have a thing for awkward painful positions, but it got me off like no one's business.
Lately though, on my knees, legs spread, and face smooshed against the floor or a pilloe, only one arm holding me up. I don't know why I decided I was going to do it this way one night, but for whatever reason I did and once again the awkwardness of it (plus the fact that when it's on my bed I am suffocated by the pillow a little.) makes it really intense for me.

>>10276
I'm a female too and it was just luck. I didn't know how sex worked til I was like in 6th grade. I think mom tried to explain it once but I didn't get it. I only recently learned that women can ejaculate. I made that comment in game once (forget why) and someone's like "how old are you?" "uh...27?" "and you just now learned?" "what?! I never had sex before, give me a break" "wait you're a virgin" "oh no, I'm not letting -gamers- tease me about being a virgin" Talk about feeling stupid. But whatever. Sometimes in life you just miss on things everyone else knows somehow. Nothing wrong with that.

I hate to ask but I need ideas. I take anxiety medicine for panic attacks. I LOVE not having horrible panic attacks anymore but I kinda miss my libido. Most of the time I have trouble getting off. I don't date or have sex. I hate to admit it, but I tried using two vibrators today (inside and on my clit) and I couldn't get off that way. The only way I can usually get off is with my hands and even then it's difficult. I've tried everything. Any suggestions? I'm afraid to take anything that might give me anxiety cause I'm a wuss. I tried watching porn, fantasizing. The last time my libido picked up was when I took the generic version of my medicine. I couldn't figure out why I was aroused more (liked it though!) but I was getting panic attacks again (not HORRIBLE ones but bad enough). Turns out that stuff don't work as well as the brand name :( Is there an herb or something? A creme?

>>10391
You may want to talk to your doctor about that being an issue for you.

Another suggestion is if you just think the sensation isn't intense enough then try a vibe that plus into the wall, they are more powerful. Alternately get some ginger root and cut off a small bit and rub it on your vibe, I haven't tried it, but have heard that it gives a tingling sensation.

I've been avoiding this thread for the longest time - people being so open and honest about their sexuality makes me so unbelievably uncomfortable, but I keep coming back to it because I have so much I wanna get off my chest and no place seems better at the moment.

I have no idea what "sexuality" I am. I am a massive jumble of hormones that all tell me something different.
Sexually, I am attracted to women. But occasionally (and I mean VERY occasionally,) I find a sexual aspect of a male attractive - never the kind that could actually lead up to an orgasm, it's just nice to think about.
While I am for the most part a lesbian, I find relationships with men to be more preferable. I'm always questioning my intention to have sex with him - I like the guy, it's nothing about HIM exactly... it could be that it IS a 'him'.

I find sexual acts in general to be very impersonal. Any sexual aspect of me I almost find to not even really be a part of who I am, like it's just something to get done and over with.
("Oh hey look, I'm horny." MASTURBATION MASTURBATION MASTURBATION ORGASUUUUUUM "Okay, back to whatever the fuck I was doing before.")

I am a virgin, if that wasn't apparent, and I'm in no hurry to change that. Sometimes though I can't help but think "you can't know your sexuality until you've had sex" but I ALREADY KNOW what I find attractive so I don't think I really HAVE to have sex, but then I'm left back in my confused little spot alone.

My main problem (beyond finding out what I want out of myself) is relationships. I never know for sure if I want to be in one, for starters, and I don't know how to straight-up tell a guy "Hi, I'd like to be in a romantic relationship with you but I have no interest in ever going past 1st base. You game?" it sound so joke-y, but it's painfully realistic and frustrating.

It feels so good to at least say this since nobody I know personally would even bother taking this seriously, so it feels good to say this in a place where other people experience similar problems. It's also taken writing all of this down and serious manning up to bother putting a name up there. Never stop being amazing, TF2Chan, you've got some bitchin' folks here.

>>10422
If sex doesn't interest you then it doesn't interest you. People all have different libidos. However if you still want a relationship that's not out of the question either. There are people out there who are asexual, impotent or otherwise who just want a companion.

As far as needing to have sex to know your tastes... Well I'm here and there on that one. Before I had sex I KNEW I wanted a guy my own age with longish hair. After a few relationships I realized I didn't want that at all. I found out later that I like bald guys.

Not having sex does leave it all to fantasy and fantasy is great, but it can also have it's down sides, there are parts of your body that you can't reach on your own while masterbating and that does change things. Kissing changes things. Being on the giving end of oral changes things. It's a different experience. It's not better, but different. Trust me sex can some times be as unfulfilling as getting blood tests.

I don't see anything at all wrong with you, however you might want to try looking in other places for what you need. A good friend might be more fulfilling than a traditional relationship sans physical stuff.

My parents raised me to think that my body was disgusting and that I wasn't good enough for anyone or thing. I haven't been able to successfully schlick more than once in my life (hand, I don't have the money or guts for toys), porn is still too intimidating, and the fact that I can't just spread my legs whenever my boyfriend wants and that anything close to my opening really hurts, and that I'm not ready to go down on him after one time of seeing him naked just caused him to break up with me. That, and the fact that I want him to wear a condom once I became ready. I've wanted to go on birth control for hormonal reasons even before I met him, and my parents gave me a very clear "No, because if you do you'll become a slut".

I'm legally an adult, but for whatever reason, I'm not ready yet and I'm not...I want a relationship where we can talk and reassure each other. Sex isn't my main goal, it's finding a spouse and a partner and someone I can live and possibly have kids with. I sound so sappy and feel bad that I couldn't do exactly what he wanted. The desire was there, but it was more to make him happy than anything else.

>>10446
I think you really need some counciling or at the least a workshop on self esteem. I had the same issue about being touched for years and in the end it's very true that you can't love someone if you dont love yourself. That doesn't mean it's your fault, just that you need to work on this seriously. You might want to earnestly talk to your ex and explain this if you haven't and explain you have this baggage to deal with right now. Getting turned down like that can be a kick in the ego and just hurt him by bringing up any of his own body issues.

Really thus is worth working on even if you need to save up and find a councilor in your price range because it's not going to just go away. Also if you still live with your parents consider moving, that freedom in itself would help your self esteem a lot as well as giving you your own space to grow in without their influence.

>>10446
No offense but it sounds like your ex was kind of an ass. I hate when guys expect things of you so soon. Combat Baby was right, some counseling would help. There's nothing wrong with not wanting sex. I'm nearly 30 and I don't really want sex.

>>10446 I'm agreeing with >>10448 about your ex sounding like an assclown. Not wearing a condom is irresponsible, even if you were on birth control. Might as well take all the contraception you can. (Then again, if I didn't think of my lady bits as something as dangerous to my well-being as, let's say, the exhaust port on the Death Star, maybe I'd be a little more lax.)

There are perfectly valid reasons to go on the pill outside of being a contraceptive measure. My sister had to go on it because she would get almost homicidal. Hell, I'm thinking about going on it to even my mood out, and I'm not even active.

Never rush to having sex. Just find somebody who's going to be patient and nurturing with you. You'll know when you're ready.

>>10447
>>10448
>>10449

Thank you so much. A psychologist/psychiatrist is an option I'm definitely looking into, but apparently none of the doctors near my college take our insurance.

I don't know why sex is so nervewracking for me. It's something I want eventually, as are kids, but even if I can think about it, I have trouble looking up smut or touching myself or actually doing things related to it. I've never been molested, so I'm mystified as to why it's so worrying to me. My ex said he understood and would help me on it, but clearly, he changed his mind about it or forgot. Talking to him is still somewhat of a sore subject, but he's playing it off as if we never had an argument.

>>10555
I'm not sure where you go to university, but I know around here by law if the place has some kind of counseling service, they must offer students at least two sessions per semester. In general, if the uni has some kind of service like that in place they can't really turn you down.

Guess what, its free! You've already paid for it! Look into that shit, trust me.

>>10560
My sister insisted they only know how to deal with family deaths and homework stress and stuff like that, and that it was a waste of time. She doesn't know the full story, just that I have depression. I'll go seek them out, though- I trust your word over hers. I'm not sure how much of this to tell the counselor when I do, though.

I tried schlicking again, but I was rubbing my clit a little, and the feeling suddenly vanished after a minute or so. I don't know whether it was because I "finished" or because something happened and I got turned off. I'm still not quite sure what's arousal and orgasm and what isn't, and when I have feelings for someone and when I just like them as a person. Someone offered the idea that I was demisexual, because I only ever seem to be interested in having sex with people I know very, very well and care about very deeply.

>>10574
If their program isn't extensive, they might refer you to someone after a session or two if they don't think they can help you. Regardless, they should have SOMEONE you can talk to, even just once, and they might be able to help you find an affordable/insurance taking doctor in the area.

I've found one should take the advice on seeking help from someone who probably never has with a grain of salt.

I'd also STEER THE FUCK CLEAR of any psychiatric (that's different from psychological/counseling) services a uni might offer. Those guys are part time working QUACKS who will over medicate the fuck out of you to cover their own asses. (not bitter at all I assure you).

Best of luck to you anon.

>>10574
I'm the same way, anon. I don't have these super sexy explosion orgasms that other women brag about, I just know when I'm done. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex or some high-quality alone time, it just means there's no fireworks display afterwards.

I've never met anyone else like this so thank you for sharing. I didn't think I was broken but I suspected perhaps everyone else was exaggerating.

>>10580
See, I'm sort of like this. I vary. Sometimes, I have wonderful orgasms that make me see stars.

Most times it's just fapfapfapDun. Kay, what's on TV?
I thought I was doing it wrong, for a bit there, after watching porn and these women were all "OH GODDD YESSS I'M CUMMING OOHHHHH OOOOOOOH YESSSS!" And I'm sitting here, like, 'Unh. Unh. Phew.' at the most.

Now I know that the orgasms I have are perfectly natural, and I enjoy them. I won't be screaming to the heavens, but I enjoy them, and that's enough for me.

>>10580
>>10584

Ahh, I'm relieved to hear that that's normal! I was just wondering because it sort of...stopped abruptly, like there was no warm, content feeling afterwards. I just went back to the way I'd been before I started, and it was a little...unsatisfying, maybe?

>>10584
Porn is just completely ridiculous in general. That's why I prefer watching homemade stuff, generally they don't try to act.

The main thing I feel after an orgasm is just really sleepy and derpy. Helps me sleep, though it's a problem if I have to do homework or something afterwards. I'm talking "2+2=fffFFFFFFFFFFFFFF" derp.
Trying to train myself to orgasm without ejaculating, because apparently that doesn't happen then. Have yet to get the hang of it though.

>>10584
I've never really had an AMAZING orgasm before, honestly, but I'm not really upset about it. I mean, the feelings I've gotten before were good, and knowing that those super exaggerated orgasms in porn are so ridiculously fake that it's mainly just embarrassing, I feel almost bad that I tend to exaggerate the way I portray it in my drawings or fics.

What vibrators/toys would any of you reccomend for someone who is tight/virgin?

>>10769
Are you secretly me, Anon? Because I was just going to come here and ask this.

Eerie.

But yeah, same question. I'm especially looking for something quiet and easy to hide, because I still live at home. Waterproof would be nice, too.

Alright, because whenever I try to discuss this with my friends they get really quiet and weird and "why-are-you-telling-me-this"-ish, I'll ask about it here because you all seem very trustworthy and give good advice.

I have no problem getting turned on, but the thought of masturbation freaks me out really badly. Like, I want to do it, but as soon as I try I feel really light-headed and kind of sick so I stop. And even then, I'm left with blue balls and shame and embarrassment. I'm closing in on 19 years of age now, and I don't want this to get to a point where it's too distracting in my day-to-day life.

In short, any tips (emotionally and/or physically) for someone who wants to try to start masturbating but is horribly afraid to?

>>10780
Maybe try doing it through less conventional means? Go slow, and maybe hump a pillow or hold it under some running water or something. I find when I get dizzy spells (mine are due to sinusitis), it's easiest for me to orgasm when I can completely relax and just have it.

Okay so this is extremely awkward and difficult for me to say. It's something that's been plaguing my mind for a very, very long time and this is literally the only place I can go without fear of panic attack (despite feeling one coming right now).

I lost my virginity when I was fifteen, to a man who was twenty five. I thought it was love, to him it was obsession. He steadily managed to make me more and more depressed over a period of nearly a year and a half to the point where I contemplated suicide without even realising why I was thinking like this. When I explained this and tried to break up with him, he tried to drug me.

I recently saw him DJ-ing at MCM Expo (Alice can vouch for the fear I felt that day).

Now, I have no proof about the drugs (I've long since thrown the last of them away) but what do I do now? It's been years, do I still have a case? It was consensual then but I wish it had never happened now.

I just don't know what to do.

>>10787
Depends on what sort of case you're looking for. Prosecuting him for sex with a minor? For drugging you? Trying to get a restraining order? It depends on what you're trying to do, but all in all, I'd talk to a lawyer about it. They'd know better than most of us.

>>10783
Alright, thank you...I'll keep that in mind the next time I think I can work up the courage to go through with it. Phew.

Man, shower sex was like my biggest kink ever.

Turns out, it's just sex in cramped quarters with some water thrown in.

Oh well, it was nice anyway I suppose.

>>10787
Dude, get this guy registered as a sex offender if he really did that to you. But also consider that you were 15 at the time and though I'm not questioning your experiences, I would say that depression/emotional breakdowns are not uncommon for people that age. But if he did drug you and knowingly have sex with a minor, you have a case. And you should probably talk to a lawyer and see this through, if only to get some closure on that part of your life.

Guy I was dating was going on and on about how his penis was too long/thick for a condom to ever possibly fit and how he refused to put one on. Even though we broke up as a result, I still think he's bullshitting.

Never been so horny in my life. I started dating a new man and he turns me on like nothing else.
But it's a long distance relationship so I don't see him often enough to satisfy my needs so I'm wanking like crazy.
Going from fapping once every week or two to once (sometimes twice) a day isn't a problem, is it?

Alright gals, question.
I'm a bit of a well endowed guy (not gonna get into details), and every time my girlfriend and I have sex it goes pretty well and she usually gets her rocks off at least three times during the act.
Thing is, though, that my uh, length and girth prevent me from going all the way in (when I do she says it's like somebody slugging her in the gut) and if we get even the least bit rough she enjoys it right then, but can't have sex for a couple of days.

Most guys would just pat me on the back, but it actually really, really sucks because we'll plan vacations that last four days and have sex the first night and she'll be out of commission until after we have already gotten home.

We try being slow and gentle, and even THAT hurts her the next day. We have copious amounts of foreplay, we've used extra lubrication, hell we've even switched to anal for a while (oddly enough, it doesn't hurt her and she doesn't feel like she got fucked with a bowling pin the next day, plus she really likes it) but no matter what we do we can't seem to have her NOT walk bow-legged the next half a week.

Ladies, please help?
What can we do that we haven't already done?
She doesn't have that condition where her muscles tighten up and cause her pain during sexual activity, she enjoys the sex while it happens. I'm just tired of inadvertently hurting her.
halp

>>11186
Go homo.

No, seriously. I don't think there's much you can do about that problem. It it's not gonna fit, it's not gonna fit. Anal is your best bet. Guys with big cocks have turned to gay sex before due to their size. Since your girlfriend likes anal, though, there should be hope for you as far as this is concerned.

>>11186
Have you tried different positions? I've heard that girl-on-top helps her to stretch out more. There are probably others out there too to maximize vaginal flexibility.

>>11194
Can I get "Let me help maximize your vaginal flexibility" tattooed on some part of my body?
That is the best thing I've heard all day.

It's mind boggling to me that she's into anal, and it doesn't hurt her, but the actual part of her body designed for penis is having an issue. For perspective, I'm about as wide as her wrist.

What the hell, human biology is weird.
We'll do more with her on top, it limits my range of motion so I can't get carried away. Actually in retrospect she's not really all that sore after we have sex in that position.

>>11195

>For perspective, I'm about as wide as her wrist.

Sorry, I've got no useful advice. But goddamn.

>>11196
Puberty was hell. Random erections in knit shorts during gym?
WHY THE FUCK NOT.

also brilliant gif

>>11195
Lube is a best buddy as well if you haven't been using it then do. And if she hasn't cum yet at least once then don't even try. Orgasm loosens it up a bit so foreplay.

Also you can bet when you are in the back door like that it's hitting her g spot pretty hard through the vaginal wall.

>>11195
I'm glad I wrote something memorable, then.

Also, I second that 'goddamn'. Hooooolyyyy.

Another thing you might try, too, is frottage. Rubbing your genitals together. Basically fucking her labia. Some people like it, some people don't. Might be worth a shot if you haven't tried it already. One of my friends, she had a boyfriend that was like, as long as her arm I guess, and he'd end up pretty much hitting the roof of her mouth when he boinked her. So they tried frottage, so there was no issue with going too deep, and she loved it.
Again, not for everyone, but when you have any sort of problem, the only way to fix is it by trying new things.

>>11199
We've tried that as part of the foreplay, but we sort of just go "....Alright fuck it we'll be gentle" each time.
Cut to the following day, when she's telling me that it hurts to even think about sex. It's pretty rad though, and works well with my natural upwards inclincation (I don't fish-hook, but when erect I'd say my penis itself hangs out sorta at a 45 degree angle to my body, as opposed to a 90 degree, doesn't bother me or anyone it's just how I am plus I can put things on the tip and the springboard launch them at stuff behind me) so I'll give it another shot.


>>11198
SO MUCH LUBE.

Can this now be a lube thread.

What types do you guys use?
We use Liquid Silk, a high-quality water base lubricant the emulates natural lubrication and has just a touch of silicone for that extra "slick" factor. oh and like a pennys worth is enough for me, her, fingers etc.

>>11206
I would suggest using the Pjur silicone lube, and then slathering the waterbased stuff over the top. Just for that extra slide.

I had a dream the other night that I had a dick, and had sex with a football (American) player guy. I don't even like football, but I was awfully proud that my dick was bigger than his. I wish those kinda dreams came around more often.

>>11260
>>I had a dream the other night that I had a dick, and had sex with a football[.]

Stopped reading there because the mental image is too funny to give up

So yesterday my boyfriend and I took part in some mutual masturbation via webcam. At home my net isn't fast enough for us to cam, but I'm staying at a house where I'm working and I've got like seven hours free during the day so we decided we were gonna do it. I'd never done anything beyond like phone sex before, and it was the hottest. Damn. Thing.
I could go on for hours about it and how hot he was and how hard he made me cum, but I won't. I'll just go back to raving to him about it and hope that we do it again soon. Makes me wish I didn't have to return home to my shitty net on Monday, since I can't wait for my next chance to see him all laid out naked and moaning again.
...I'm kind of more into this guy than I've ever been into another person. Hngh, yes.

I feel entirely too silly for asking this, but I figure it wont hurt since Im anonymous.

Im 20, female, and have never really tried masturbating to orgasm. Ive touched myself, yes, but never really to the full extant that I could. I just sorta stop myself.

Should I go through with it?
Its not a huge deal to me, but Ive got a bit of pent up... frustration that I cant seem to get rid of, but chicken out as soon as I start getting that feeling. I just dont seem to know how to handle the intensity, I guess? Im not really sure what my problem is.

Im a total virgin, by the way. That actually may be my problem.

>>11298
Well your age isn't that big a deal, like, "OMG YUR TWENTY AND NEVER ORGASMED WHAT'S WRONG WITH U" or anything. Girls do tend to start later on the whole self-gratification front.

If you don't like going that far, or if it's too intense for you that it's unpleasant, then don't do it.
Masturbation is about pleasure. If you're not happy with what you're doing, then why do it?

That said, I was tentative about that intensity the first few times, but once I got past it- OH MAN ALIVE, it feels pretty damn good.

And once you've had the first, it's so much easier to do it again.

What I might suggest is watching or reading or listening to something pornographic while you masturbate. Focus on the material, and just let your body do what's natural.

>>11300
As soon as I got to "Man Alive" I started reading in Wheatly's voice.

>>11300
As soon as I got to "Man Alive" I started reading in Wheatly's voice.

>>11301
If it helps, I wrote it in his voice, too.

Captcha: man (where the a looks like a heart) gorout. Interesting phrase.

My boyfriend and I are both FtM (male, but physically female.) We have great sex and understand each other's bodies and what we're comfortable with, but he doesn't like the strap-on because of how cold and plastic-y it feels. It's a pretty basic dildo. I really love wearing it, but obviously I want him to enjoy it too.

Can anyone recommend a more realistic feeling dildo compatible with a strap on harness? Do you think warming lube would help it feel less like plastic?

I finally achieved multiple orgasms. Yes.

My boyfriend was going down on me, and when I came, he kept going, and I came about four more times.

In a row, within seconds of each other.

Fuck yes.

Am I the only person who can't have an intense orgasm unless someone else is providing it?

When I fap it's like twenty minutes, done. Back to whatever the fuck I was doing before. When there's someone else, I cum more quickly and harder than I ever do when fapping.

Is it all the emotional stuff and maybe nerves attached to the experience? Like I appreciate it, the orgasms my partner provides me are all the more special because I just can't get the same sensations myself, I'm just curious.

I wonder in all the sex studies conducted, has a reason beyond 'someone you love givin' it to you is gonna be better than a quick fap' been found? I don't know if I'm asking a question or making a point here...

>>11333
I can't speak for the 'solo versus together' thing, simply because still a virgin, but I know that my orgasms are just sort of 'Unf, unf, kay done.' typically.
Once in a while, I'll manage a REAAAALLY good one, but it's like, once every 100, so it's not often.
I think it's probably a case of if there's someone else doing the work, it might be easier for you to relax and just enjoy the sensations.
Or it might be a subconscious thing when we masturbate. We know what we like, and we stick to that. A lover wouldn't know exactly what moments your pleasure is reaching a small peak, or a dip, and would just keep going, taking you higher rather than slowing down as you yourself might.

>>11333
There's obviously going to be the emotional intensity along with the nice sensations, and the lack of feedback from yourself (if you were fapping) makes the sensations even stronger.

Keep at it. After five different playmates and a sexlife old enough to vote, I finally have a partner who not only can make me cum from intercourse, but also squirt. And he's also learned that if I fap until I cum, then he takes over, he can literally keep me cumming for almost ten minutes without coming down. Of course, at the end of it I can barely string a sentence together, but what the hell.

The best part is that he aint some sort of sex guru. We discovered all this stuff together. And you can too.

I've been having the weirdest dreams the last few nights. Mainly that I'm a man and this is completely natural and normal and even comfortable. Now I know I'm pretty bloody gender queer mentally already, but what the hell brain? Why do you give me this and let me really enjoy it when I guess I'm ok with my female outside. Hell if I really think about it I'd really rather be a herm than either specific gender but have just kind of settled for female because it's what's there and I can't be pissed to go to more doctors who'd probably just disregard my kind of... I danno.... omni-sexuality?

Tl;dr I want a penis but I don't and fuck gender I am confuse.

>>11353

I know that feel. I'm biologically female and don't have a strong desire to identify as either gender, but when I fantasize, I'm much more aroused by the idea of being male (or having the same body I have now, just no tits and a dick)- but only during sex. Any other time, I wouldn't care either way.

>>11378
I know that feel all too well.

>>11378
Likewise. When I'm giving a handjob to my boyfriend I like press the shaft of his cock between the lips of my cunt and stroke him there so that when I look down I get the visual impression of stroking a cock all my own.

>>11353
>>11378
>>11380
>>11382

That Freudian feel.

Another weird thing is that I get really intimidated by pictures of large penises.

I'm really tiny physically and I've always been too spooked to buy a vibrator/am a virgin, and for whatever reason was always convinced something that big would really hurt. I'm probably just worrying too much.