From the sounds of it, it may just be a cause of being pent up and rather sensitive. It isn't anything to worry about and you don't need to share it with any potential boyfriend, though I would suggest trying a little self play just to ease the tension. Nothing wild of course just a little something to blow of some steam. If ye don't mind me askin, how old are ya?

>>8585
18 and a few months. I haven't really had a boyfriend before because... eugh I was molested repeatedly at a young age by my older cousin and that totally just fucked up everything. I struggled for years with having to deal with feelings of repulsion when thinking about sex, yet being inexplicably drawn to it. I've actually been watching porn (on and off - I got caught twice, and gave it up on my own for a few years) since I was, like, 11. I've just started coming to terms with my own feelings and sexuality when it comes to sex, but I still can't help feeling like... Iunno. Uncomfortable by the thought of it sometimes.

And that's not even considering the way it fucked up my perspective of men. Some days I'd just sit there wishing I could be a lesbian just so that I wouldn't have to be SO DAMN ATTRACTED TO THEM but not. So that's probably the reason I've never had a boyfriend. Well, that and daddy issues, but eh, this ain't the thread for that.

>>8584
I get the same way, minus the porn and molestation. I'm 20, and my parents raised me that you're not supposed to think of sex, ever, so I don't masturbate and I've never gotten into much of a relationship with anyone out of shyness, but sometimes I'll see a picture or get a thought or RP a bit and I'll get wet.

I worry that I should touch myself, though, mostly because I'm a very nervous, tense person, and I have no idea how to deal with stress.

I will say, though, that not all men are your cousin or your father. Try not to worry.

>>8587
Well its just gonna be a time think, we are born the way we are and that's that. I have trouble trusting women at the moment, different reasons though. There's no rush either, so take yer time and let these feelings develop as they would.

Here, my skype is donstheman, Im goin through rough times myself but I always like to help people by talking or just bein there to listen. Its up to you if ya want to add me, but anyone else can if they want to talk or ask about anything, and it will be 100% anonymous, I won't share these things with anyone else.

>>8584
I believe that's what they call "thinking off", which only a small percentage of the population can do. It was highly sought after for a study on orgasms, though, because someone wanted to see what peoples' brains looked like when they hit the big moment.

>>8591
Don't worry - I know that all men aren't bad, and I even have quite a few close guy friends. It's just I'm always paranoid that guys might be using me if I'm not careful, which I know isn't true or fair, but I'll slowly but surely get over it, I think.

>>8593
Thank you, Donny - that's a really sweet thing of you to do. I'm a little nervous about adding you just because I'm a shy person and I don't even really use Skype often, but I'd like a chance to talk to you off the chan.

>>8595
Oh, okay. Well, as long as nothing is wrong... I guess I should consider myself pretty lucky, actually.

>>8613
I actually have really powerful orgasms - basically to the point where I don't allow myself to get that far because it's likely I'll ruin my sheets if I do. So I'm always kind of flirting with it. I have no doubt in my mind that I could actually bring myself to an orgasm if I stopped holding back, but at this point, it just sounds like a terrible idea. It's hard, though, because I think I get the female equivalent of blue balls. I start feeling a little uncomfortable below the belt, and a lot of the time, I even get headaches or start grinding my teeth. I think I'm, like, a ticking time-bomb of sexual frustration, and... Iunno. I don't think that's very good.

>>8634
Laying down towels is always a good idea, especially if you think you're gonna squirt. It saves you the trouble of having to wash the sheets, because all you have to do is wash the towels. Towels are much easier to wash than sheets. It also helps protect surfaces other than sheets that you don't want to get messy. If you don't want to have to wash towels afterward, laying down any kind of disposable plastic like plastic wrap or trash bags might be a good alternative. All you would have to do is wrap them up carefully to contain the mess and throw them away. You could also masturbate in the shower, bath or on the toilet, that way the mess stays in a contained area and just wash or flush it away.

Does anyone else have trouble shutting up about private stuff?

I mean, I started debating with a fellow student about prostitution, you know, politics. But since she was all like "I don't think any of them actually do it because they want to, all prostitutes have probably been through childhood abuse" etc, I just HAD to say that I've been thinking about selling sex before, although it's not really in my current plans.

And a friend of mine had gotten a free magazine, that seemed to be a bit like SA, but in paper format. In the magazine was an article about Bad Dragon, you know, a website that sells dildos apparently based on dragon cocks or something. She was all like "THIS IS SO STRANGE. HOW CAN PEOPLE WANT THIS?". I said that I've known about the site, but I had a hard time not telling her "But yeah, my toy is from Zeta creations, I prefer realistic designs". Thankfully, I held my mouth shut. But I was really tempted to out myself as someone who uses a dog dildo, just to see her face.

I'm pretty open about ... a lot, and live in a kind of liberal enviroment. So this whole deal of me not being able to shut up, has made not really understand LGBTQ-people who still haven't come out. I came out as bisexual when I was 15, I have bigger problems than that. I might come off as a bit of a insensitive jerk when young gay people are all like "how should I tell me parents" and I go like "just tell them, faggot"?

tl;dr: I think I'm not careful enough when talking about sensitive issues, like sex.

>>8641
Yeah, I hate to say it, but you do kind of seem like an insensitive jerk. I understand you living in an pretty liberal environment, but not everyone has that luxury. Don't you think those few people that hid their sexuality from their parents had a reason to? If you come from a religious household like I have, telling your parents that you're gay is only SLIGHTLY better than telling them you murdered a hooker. It's not at all uncommon for some kids to get DISOWNED by their parents because they came out as being gay.

I doubt this is only limited to talking about sexual stuff, to be honest. By the sounds of it, you're just a downright crass person in general. I'm all for straight talk and speaking truthfully, but you seem to take it to another whole level; there's a difference between being frank and being just rude.

If I were you, I'd take special care to think before I say anything AT ALL, because I can guarantee you that if I came to you with a problem as serious as, "How do I tell my parents I'm gay?" and you said, "Just tell them faggot", I'd make sure not to come to you for any kind of advice ever again. That's a one-way trip to having no friends right there.

tl;dr: Think before you speak.

>>8641
I have a tendency to speak before i think or I'll say something at an inappropriate time. Apparently people don't like hearing about weird surgeries I saw online during dinner. Sometimes it's hard to understand that all people are different and how each individual functions.

>>8634
If ye prefer, Ill be on steam as well, once again, just add donstheman. Take yer time, Ill be here when ya need me.

>>8642
You know, I've gotten better at understanding other people's problems. You know, having a friend with anxiety problems has kind of forced me to try to understand that. But when it comes to sexuality, I just can't understand prude and conservative people at all. I admit that.

Before I came out to my mum, I was painting up all these dramatic mental images, of how I would be treated differently etc... then I noticed that wasn't a big deal. It wasn't a deal at all. Most people didn't care, and apparently not all who seem straight are. So I generally think people worry too much. Unless you've got some serious clues that your family are fundamentalist nut-jobs, it's better to assume they are not.

Yes, I value honesty highly.

But when you are a zoophile (albeit non-practicing), the problems that exist in the LGBTQ community seem just ... petty. I can understand it being different in other places, but where I live, there is gay marriage, anti-hate crime laws, the media is on our side and homophobes are rare.

>>8644
Yeah, I do that too.

>>8662
Well, maybe part of the problem is that you just come from a different country. It might be hard understand why one person would rather not tell their parents about being gay because you don't know how bad things can be for "out" gays in America - especially the American south. I hate to sound stereotypical, but I LIVE here, and I can tell you that every single one of your friends that is afraid to tell their parents about their preference definitely has a reason to. It is most definitely is NOT a very "open" atmosphere to explore yourself - for some families, they literally WOULD rather you be dead than you be gay. I guess you just can't understand unless you live here. Sorry for getting all up in your grill like that.

So, yeah. It's not your friends being prudes or that they're over-dramatic. They probably do have reasons to hide what they are, and it would be great of you to try to understand why or where they're coming from before you say something like that.

I just realized that I'm assuming these friends of yours are online American friends. Are they? Because yeah, that could change things a lot.

>>8667
No, I'm talking about Swedish (from Stockholm, even) teenagers IRL mostly. Sometimes swedish adult women online.

Online, I tend to say that the best way to handle things (sexual or not) are related to where you live, and what kind of culture exists there. You never know where people live, some might be from Saudi Arabia or something. And then you'd have a problem.

Yeah, but the thing I really wanted to discuss was how I'm kind of open with stuff generally. I talked to my colleague (who isn't Swedish) about the (gay) Pride festival, which is free this year, and that I hope to have free time so that I can go visit it. And she asked me: "But, why would you want to go to a gay pride festival?" with this confused look on her face.

Maybe it's a cultural thing, I wouldn't even ask that question. I would assume that they either were LGBTQ, or had friends who where and just leave it at that.

OP here. Just wanted to say, this conversation kind of reminds me of something I read recently: http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-reasons-we-need-classes-how-to-talk-to-people/

... This isn't just about faking social skills and manipulating people with some stupid "social engineering" tricks. Learning things like empathy and listening puts you in a place where you understand other people a little better, and saves you from living in a paranoid world where you imagine everyone's thinking bad things about you, or everyone you don't get along with is an oversimplified villain or shallow stereotype.

And if you like to be honest and blunt, that's one thing, but it's another thing when half the people you're talking to think you're insulting them just because you don't know what phrases come across as condescending. You'll alienate both the people you meant to rip on, and the people you didn't. Maybe you want to come across as that sarcastic, insulting guy -- but not on accident, right?

I know a lot of us don't have the energy to socialize with more than a certain number of people every day, and that's no problem. I'm just saying that I see a lot of Internet people express the view that 90 percent of people out there are boring or vapid and they don't need to learn to deal with them. They'll just hang out with the few people that respond positively whenever they blurt out whatever is in their head at the moment, and trying to adapt their manner to get along with anybody else is "being fake" and "not being themselves."

You miss out on a lot of life that way. And if that's fine with you, keep in mind it's that kind of attitude that's going to lead to some company spending millions on developing sentient kangaroos when one employee has an AIDS cure gathering dust or something. You could have stopped that. Just saying.

I never really thought my ineptitude to talk to people was that much of a problem before, but now I'm starting to see it as a problem. Maybe this is something we all should work on.

>>8635
Thanks - as soon as I get up the courage, I'll give it a try. It's kind of weird to think about masturbating at all, but it's better than being as sex-starved as I am. I might look into trying to discretely get one of those tiny little vibrators at the store, too. If only I knew where to look...

>>8669
Did you ever consider that maybe people just aren't as forward as you are and prefer to keep their personal affairs to themselves?
It's not like all straight people go DUR HUR HUR LOOK AT ME I'M STRAIGHT LET ME TALK ABOUT SEX NEAR YOU. Mind you, some of them do, but that has less to do with their sexuality and more to with the type of people they are.
So yeah. This isn't about sexuality or discussing sexuality, it's about peoples' comfort levels. There's just some things you don't need to talk about. I'm not anti-gay or anti-pride or anything (as a matter of fact, I'm bi myself), I'm just saying. Your sexuality can be an important part of you, but don't let it be your defining feature.
teal deer: talking about certain things can make any person uncomfortable, so just don't be a prick.

>>8682
I think one should be talk openly about most things. Death, politics, religion, sex ... well, you can't give all the details when it comes to sex and death I guess. But you know, generally. I think the world would be a better place then.

>>8688
It would be nice, but it's not the way things are. Even if you believe your way's better than everyone else's, it doesn't give you free reign to disrespect the ways they operate.

(This isn't directed solely at you, by the way- in case it comes off that way.)

Has anyone ever got this weird shiver up their spine when they pee? And not even from holding it in forever, but just a normal trip to the bathroom.
It almost feels like a half-orgasm and I'm definitely no pee fetishist, so what in the hell is going on?

>>8705
Is it every time you pee, or just on occasion? Because if it's just on occasion then it is probably caused by a UTI.

>>8707

Every time, or damn near every time. And I've had a UTI before about a year ago, and it doesn't feel anything like that.

>>8705
lots of people get the piss shivers
http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/1044/what-causes-piss-shiver

>>8709

Ah good, so women can get it too? That's a load of relief, danke anon.

>>8705
No but I do get that when I prod around my bellybutton enough for some reason.

>>8708
My mistake then. I get mild UTIs a little more than the average person and get the "piss shivers".

It's because of my narrow urethra.

guys sometimes i have to change my underwear like four times a day 'cause sometimes my vaginal fluids drip out and make my undies all wet and smelly.


does this happen to any of you i mean what's goin aawwwn

>>8731
If the discharge is discoloured or smells really bad, you should see a doctor. If it's just fluid with the regular body odour, wear a daily panty liner. Some people just tend to produce more lubricant than others, it's not usually a health problem.

>>8731

Holy shit, having to change your panties four times a day is NOT normal.
Are you sure it's vaginal fluids? I mean, I hate to put it this way but maybe you've been pissing yourself. The muscles down there and/or your bladder could be weak.
That's insane though, I'm sorry.

>>8731
No worries anon, I'm the same way. It's just natural lubrication; you just produce more of it than most people. Just follow the advice on
>>8733
and wear daily liners. With me it seems like a lot when I'm wearing underwear because it rubs against you and gets everywhere, but it's normally a smaller amount than it seems. I suggest the 'barely there' liners from Kotex U- cause it’s like they aren’t even there.

Repost from the last one.

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"So many females commenting here... so much for 4chan's notions about "no girls on the internets".

Anyway, lacking a vag like what is apparently 75-90% of TF2Chan's userbase judging from this thread, I unfortunately don't get to enjoy all the many wonderful and creative ways of self-stimulation you girls have... dammit.
All I've got is a fist and a dick.

And, frankly, I'm actually getting bored with masturbating. I've only had sex once (at 13, with a 17-year-old babysitter who was a bit slutty and admitted she did it out of pity "because you deserve at least one lay in life" - yeah, thanks for the ego-booster, bitchwaffle), and, due to certain medical conditions (among them social anxiety, social phobia, and partial blindness) I'm unable to drive, unemployed, and still live at home with my parents at 29. Not exactly conductive to a healthy sexlife.

What worries me is that, if by some gods-damned miracle I actually somehow manage to find a female with standards low enough to consider bedding me... that all my time spent "flying solo" will seriously fuck up my attempts at servicing someone else - after all, movies and text can only teach so much before personal experience is needed..."

That thing with the babysitter is messed up - she should be in jail. Also she just sounds like a general cunt.

I wouldn't worry about flying solo impairing your ability to please a woman, though. While I'll come clean right off the bat and say I'm still a virgin, I still tend to think that any guy who'd care enough just take the time to eat me out pleasure me with his mouth and fingers is already way ahead of other guys on the list. Even guys with more stamina or bigger dicks.

The problem I feel a lot of guys have is selfishness and impatience. They want to rush into things and just figure, "Welp, dick goes in," and that's all there is to it when it comes to sex. Some just go right ahead and think that all girls act like porn stars and basically just exist to get them off. Like I said, I'm just going on by my own thoughts and experiences from my friends, so it's not like I can speak for everybody, but eh.

I think that, as long as you spend enough time on foreplay, you'll be fine. Of course, every woman is different yadda yadda yadda.

Also, I know you're a straight man, but you should really look into getting an anal toy for yourself, if you're bored of the usual jacking off stuff. In particular, I'd put my stock into these guys: http://www.aneros.com/

They're actual scientists that have studied and done ACTUAL medical research on what gets guys off, and these are products based on their findings. Feedback for these babies have been OVERWHELMINGLY positive, and some guys say that sometimes it helped with prostrate-related illnesses. You don't have to - I know it's awkward for straight guys to try doing something that's thought of as being so emasculating, but if you're feeling adventurous and want to treat yourself, give it a try.

Good luck, man.

On the subject of those anal toys, I highly recommend those, based on my eyewitness account of what they've done to my ex boyfriend. Apparently it's quite a 'boost', if that makes sense.

>>8756
>>8757

I'm the guy who wrote that item you reposted.

BTW, me fucking the sitter was my idea, she was just bored enough to go along with it... and got only 90 seconds of penetration with it. woohoo. We were too scared of parents returning home early to try anything else aside from some brief boob-fondling, and I had no clue what a blowjob was at the time, though she talked me into going down on her before putting my puny pubescent pecker in.

Anyway, I don't think I'll be trying anal anytime soon, toys or otherwise - I tend to injure easily back there, if the occasional red spots on the toilet-paper are a clue, so I'd rather keep that exit-only.

As for the foreplay and such... yeah, I'm smart enough to realize porno girls' orgasms are about as real as their tits, so I know lots of foreplay and oral and such is a must. Hell, I daresay I find the idea of giving a woman head sexier than getting head from her - probably because blowjob videos inevitably invite unflattering comparisons. Not that I'm small, mind you; I'm "proudly" average, albeit bent a bit funny, but any guy would envy those man-horses.

And I'm not 100% straight - I like dicks, just not most men who are attached to them. Shemales/Futanari, "traps", and most anime bishounen trip my wire almost as easily as the ladies do.

I can't be the only person who finds showering intensely sexual, right?

>>8786
hot water, soap-slick skin... very nice.

>I like dicks, just not most men who are attached to them.

I like this.

Am I the only one who absolutely hates twink porn? I mean, maybe it's because I'm an actress, so I know that acting isn't really that hard, and doesn't take much effort to be decent at it, but it always seems to be the twinks that are OH SO BAD at acting.
I mean, some of them are cute enough. Personally, I prefer my men to look like men, and not emaciated little boys, but everyone has their preference.

But dear god, twink boys. Just fuck and don't talk. Your voices annoy me so damn much, and I don't for one second believe that you want to 'suck his big cock'. If THAT is big, then man, my teeny vagina has it made in the shade.

I know it's porn, and that I shouldn't get annoyed by something as simple as stilted dialogue, and monotone recitation of a shitty script, 'cause 'hey! look! Penises!' but still. Drives me nuts.

>>8790
Thus why I said shemales/futa, bishounen, and so-on are turnons, not muscleguys or "bears" r whatever. Watching cocks harden and spurt is just yum. I can do without the grunting hairy-assed men often attached to the yum. Most men in porn don't arouse me, they make me jealous they can look better than I probably ever will when naked. The fact they're often rather amply endowed only furthers my jealousy.

>>8791
It's porno, honey, not Shakespeare. You'll never really get believable dialogue from fuck-for-paycheck actors. S'why I prefer amateur work - the reactions are authentic. Gay or straight, any dialogue or interactions in most porn are just secondary to the humpity. Or at least, that's how it is these days. God, I miss the stuff from the 70's and 80's, where even if they were cheesy, there was still attempts at writing and plot, not just "two people are in a room, now they fuck for no reason" that modern stuff is.

>>8793
I don't expect Shakespeare. But people who don't sound like illiterate morons who are reading the script off the wall are NOT hard to find. Love of god. I mean, just go on redtube, and watch the twink videos. I don't even watch them for the porn anymore. I just laugh at them. THAT is how bad they are. There's one I particularly love, of a student seducing the 'counselor' who looks about 3 days older than him. Worst dirty talk ever, too.

Gotta say that I side-eye anybody who is way into "tranny porn" or "shemales" because it makes me feel bad for transsexual women. Of course all women get objectified for the purposes of straight dude porn so it's really just "congrats you get to be oppressed just like them, you're not so different after all"

I should've put my post about how bad I want to fuck Gerard Way in this thread instead

>>8797
ok wait I need to clarify.
I think it is fine for you to be attracted to whatever you want! There's no shame in being attracted to dicks but not to the men attached to them! YOUR KINK IS FINE I just side-eye those words.

>>8791
A few times in college, one of the girls in my dorm would rent a movie with a really cheesy 'plot' and a bunch of us on that floor would gather in her room to watch it and laugh. Then we'd fast forward through the actual sex and laugh more

I'm interested in learning how to stimulate the prostate. Does anyone have a link to a good guide or can offer some advice? I'd probably just be using my fingers if that helps any.

>>8811
http://sexuality.about.com/od/analplay/ht/htprostate.htm

DO NOT SKIP THE PART WHERE YOU TRIM YOUR FINGERNAILS REAL WELL, OKAY, DON'T SKIP THAT

>>8821
You might simply be some variety of asexual. It's not common, but not abnormal either. There are more people out there who find sex boring than you'd maybe think. Don't feel bad about it - It simply means sex isn't your thing. If you can, try to connect to other asexual people, maybe even find a partner among them. And if you just share thoughts and experiences, that's also fine. Just don't feel like you need fixing. As long as you don't suffer under your condition (as in, you are okay with not having sex) you are 100% fine.

>>8844
Don't they make a female Viagra?

I don't understand why I'm so hesitant about sexual stuff.

I have no experience with being assaulted sexually, I'm not worried about going to hell over it, and while I don't think I'm super attractive, I'm alright with the way I look and being naked.

It might have to do with trust issues. I have been grabbed and hit by people, and while I can make friends semi-easily, I've never had a relationship that went anywhere, or faith that I can. I know it's not a sexual issue, per se, but it's something I need to know how to sort out.

>>8846
Maybe you're like me. I have no interest in sex until I find someone I find really attractive in terms of looks and personality.

>>8850
Well then, to be honest, you will have to talk to your fiancee about it. Because seriously, it becomes a big deal once interests clash. Are you faking interest in sex to make him happy or something similiar? He's going to find out sooner or later, whether by himself or by you admitting your dislike of sex because you don't want to beat around the bush anymore. I'd definitely and strongly suggest an open talk. He's your fiancee, so I assume you love and trust each other a lot. If there's someone who should know about your personal issues, it's him. You can discuss your feelings and possible future steps. If you don't think you are asexual but have issues and personal base for this dislike of sex, seeing a professional psychotherapist might be a good idea. And if it's just for hearing a second opinion - You don't have to agree to future steps right away if that would scare you.

Be honest about your issues before everything becomes a mess. It will be worth it!

>>8853
your options are basically:
1. attempt to make yourself be more interested in sex. this might mean looking into that female viagra or whatever or maybe it's hormone levels and you should talk to a doctor or something, idk
OR IF YOU DON'T WANT TO DO THAT
2. reevaluate your relationship

because what i'm seeing with your posts in this thread is you going back and forth between "I DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX AND I AM FINE WITH NOT HAVING SEX" and "I WANT TO HAVE SEX TO SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP THEREFORE I AM NOT FINE WITH NOT HAVING SEX". you have to figure out which of those is more true for you, and then you have to have a serious in-depth discussion with your partner about the conclusion you've reached, and if after a serious in-depth discussion about how you feel with your partner, he's still not respecting your feelings and decisions, then he's not a very good partner.

>>8861
so basically he doesn't respect your feelings about an important part of your relationship, and the sex isn't even that great to make up for it

DTMFA

Does anyone have any reliable, detailed guides for safety during breathplay? When my best friend and I visit each other physically, we end up doing all sorts of crazy wrestling (you could call it) and she enjoys being choked. I'm perfectly fine smothering her, but when I press my hand to her throat I'm really afraid the trachea will end up buckling under some sort of awful pressure - not that I press hard, I just don't want to be in a situation where I end up injuring her.

>>8900
In truth, there is no real honest to god "safe" way to do this, its mostly about constraint and control. Having said that, the safest point to put choking pressure is probably the glands, which is right about under the jaw in the neck on both sides of the neck. Another safe way is the sleeper position and lightly flexing your muscle so that its merely putting pressure on their neck which would cause a dizzy sensation as well as giving them a rather "rosy" complexion. DO NOT push their head forward whilst choking them in this position, as it is the form of choke hold used to restrain in the army.

I don't know if this is too off topic, but I'm an extremely masochistic woman. I can only get off to noncon, and romance, kissing and planned sex kind of turn me off. A dinner date sounds worse to me than being taken by force. I've been like this since before I knew anything about sex, I wanted to do things like lock myself in dog kennels or draw tv cartoons in bondage. So... how am I going to have a healthy sexual relationship like this?

>>8985
By only having that part of yer live involved in sex. There are many men who enjoy that sort of sex play, and there are many cases where a healthy relationship has been born from it. Of coarse, finding someone who also has the same dreams can be awkward. I don't normally do this, but maybe finding one of those highly sexual dating websites could work, with sections for specific fetishes as well.

Normal dates which you so hate can also be made into part of your fantasy with hidden sex toys and dirty talk at the restaurant... I just wouldn't recommend it for double dates.

Any way to stop myself from being horny all the goddamn time?

Fucking hormones, man. This shit ain't fun. And I'm afraid of scaring my boyfriend off by being too demanding ;;

Okay, female, and absolutely love male-male porn. To the point that once or twice I have fantasized about having a dick. I'm perfectly content with my current plumbing (well, except for once a month. Urgh.), and I'm fine with my gender role. I've never imagined being a guy. Just...having a penis.

Anyone else? I can't be alone in this fantasy...I hope.

>>8997
I'm not so comfortable being female, but I have definitely fantasized about having a penis and it's really the only thing that gets me horny. So, no, you aren't alone!

>>8997
pretty sure this is normal for chicks to think of once in a while
most dudes have once or twice thought about what it would be like to have tits and a vag (generally the conclusion reached is "give me a mirror and three days to myself")

>>8997

I'd say it's natural to be curious about something you don't have. As you say, you're happy with the body you have and the curiosity isn't causing you any distress, so don't worry!

Besides, you can always try a strap-on sometime.

>>8997

My friends and I have long ago found that if you ask any girl what she'd do if they woke up with a penis one day, most of their first answers were to masturbate to see how it felt.

You're definitely not the only one, it's natural curiosity.

>>8997
/raises hand
Seriously though, if I had a dick I'd fuck EVERYTHING. I think about it often. Like all the posters above me had stated, you're not alone.

>>8997
Maybe invest in a strap-on? Not the same I know but still.

>>9005
Considering I've no one to use it on, and that the closet thing I have to a sextoy is my 3 dollar neck massager from Marden's, I think I'll pass for now, but thanks.
Thanks to everyone, really. I'm glad I'm not alone in this.
But yeah, if I had a dick, I'm pretty sure I'd try to masturbate constantly, taking breaks to go write my name in the snow with my pee. It's probably for the best I haven't got one, then. haha.

>>9006
I think it would be healthy if everyone could switch genders for a few days. Then you'd learn how the other side works. And sex would better because you could (hopefully) remember what turned you on during those few days.

>>9015
Amen.

Hey, question for the guys out there (or the girls with male partners who aren't afraid to talk about feelings and sex).
Handjobs. I have a friend of mine that was talking about them, and called them basically pointless. 'Why have someone else do it when I can do it myself, better?' And I've read guys on the internet saying the same thing.
Now, is it true? Because I have a fascination with the male genitalia, but my gag reflex is like, ridiculously sensitive. Seriously. If you even push down on my tongue, like half an inch in my mouth, I choke. So when I get a boyfriend and like him enough to enter into a sexual relationship, blowjobs will not be happening immediately. Plus, I'm still working to get past the 'Ew, but you pee out there' mindset. So jerking him off will all I'll really be able to do at first. And I'd do it eagerly, and would love to learn how to make him feel good that way, but...

So yay-nay for handjobs. Would I basically be wasting my time?

>>9017
Id say yay. Hard to explain why if I can do it myself, its just that a person's own, unique touch can be very sensual. I love watching them look up at me with a coy smile, or lean in close, tease me, god Im gettin shivers just thinking about it.

When I do it to myself, its relief, when someone else does it, it sexy and sensual.

How do, I, uhm.

Tips for riding a guy?

I want to be able to move my hips just right~

>>9017
As far as boyfriendbot2000 has expressed, and judging by his enthusiastic reactions it is not pointless for all guys. Perhaps the friend you mentioned just isn't into handjobs.
And blowjobs aren't nearly as intimidating as you think'll be. I was freaking out when I have my first one (it was in a public place, no less) but as long as your guy's polite and understanding and allows you to take your time, it should go well.

>>9022
Seein as I'm a guy myself, this one is gonna be a lil difficult to explain. First thing is first though, don't try to complicate it by doing too much at once.

You can grind, this is when he is all the way inside you and you move in a circular motion. If you are sitting straight up it is best to get a good rhythm of going up and down going, but this can be painful on your legs after a while.
You may what to lean forward then onto your guy. Don't try to be face to face or anything like that, just keep your crotch in line with his for the most comfort and ease. When you are down like this, its best to use a thrusting motion, flicking your hips back and forth.

Of coarse, he will be moving as well, and if he is, it may be easier at first to hold yourself in a position to let him do the work, which is fine, but don't just let him do everything for the entire time, you ever had someone just lay there like a dead fish after whispering about all the things shes gonna do the entire night? Not fun.

Uh, was wondering if someone could help me out...

Truth be told I've never had sex or even masturbated once in my life (no tampons, nothing) and even though I watch porn the thought of me doing it terrifies me to no end...I'm so wrapped up in the thought that its going to hurt. I want to be in a relationship but I'm just so afraid of actually having sex, does that make me asexual...? I dont have a reason to be afraid of sex I was never molested or anything of the sort

>>9090
No, asexual means basically that you have no desire for sex, not that you're afraid of it. My friend is asexual, and with her it's just sort of 'Sex. Eh.'
I won't lie, I'm scared for it myself (and I've never gone the tampon route either, so you're not alone there).
For the record though, masturbation doesn't have to be penetrative, unless that's what you like. Hell, 85% of women who masturbate doing it primarily focusing on their clitoris. Myself included. No penetration involved.

>>9091 Pfft well its good to know I'm not alone then...I'm just tired of being teased when people find out I've never had sex, you know? I suppose I will ONE DAY but for now fear has a good grip on me lol And I didn't know it counted as masturbation if you didn't penetrate. Learn new things every day I guess.

>>9090

As far as tampons go, they take some getting used to. I used to be a pads only girl, too, until I switched from cardboard tube applicators to those round-tipped ones and I haven't looked back since.

If you're having trouble getting them in (and you will until you've had more practice), help yourself along by adding lubricant. Me, I like loading up the Chan or Ygal and reading some good porn.

>>9093
>If you're having trouble getting them in (and you will until you've had more practice)
>(and you will until you've had more practice)
>adding lube

What?
No, none of that is necessary.
Directions for tampons come with the box. I've been using them successfully since middle school. You won't need lube, and it doesn't hurt unless you jam it in haphazardly like an asshole.
I mean, if you're REALLY scared use the smaller tampons, but they need more frequent changing. And either way, it's not painful. The largest tampon is way smaller than a penis. But there's nothing to be afraid of.

Sex probably will hurt. But for some women, it doesn't. It depends. When the time for that comes, talk about it with your guy and look into ways that you can both be happy together (lube is a good idea here).
Protip: For female masturbation, stimulate your clit. That's where the arousal is. You don't even need to touch your vagina for fun times.

>>9103
Different strokes for different folks. Maybe your hymen was open wider than her's.

When I first got my period, my mom tried to force me to use tampons. I couldn't do it. Couldn't even ease them in carefully. I still can't. My hymen is pretty tough and resilient, and the opening is no bigger than my pinky finger is around. So don't be so quick to dismiss the advice.

I'm not on my period right now, but when I start it again, I'm going to use >>9093 's advice. Probably in combination with yours.

Before I got my cup, I loved those Tampax Pearl ones. Smooth applicator!

>>9109

Speaking of cups, where can one buy one of those? Or are they only available online?

A hymen with such a tiny opening that you literally cannot use tampons is really, really rare. Like, literally 2% of all women. FYI. If you don't WANT to use tampons that's absolutely your right, but if you DO want to and you "can't" there is a 98% chance that you're literally just doing it wrong.

>>9111

I don't understand why it's an unacceptable reason just because it's a rare symptom??

She may very well be one of those 2% of women, and even if she isn't it's not as if using lubricant to help ease the insertion of tampons isn't hurting anybody.

I don't want to offend of anything, I just found the wording of that to be a tad negative.

>>9113
If she's doing it wrong, lubing up won't help her actually learn to do it right. I don't know what the alternatives are since you can't exactly attend TAMPON LESSONS though.

>>9114
Well, that's why we have this thread, isn't it? To discuss various problems or questions we have regarding our own plumbing or others is one of the main things I see posted on here.

>>9114

I was just sharing my own experience with tampons, and in my experience, they go in a lot easier when I'm wet after reading good porn.

>>9110
I bought mine from local pharmacy years ago, but there's lots of places to get those online (amazon, online pharmacies etc). There's list of manufacturers in wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cup#Brands and comparing different cups is good idea.

I don't know has the Diva cup (http://www.divacup.com/) changed over the years, but mine is 6 years old now and still in good condition :)

I never got comfortable with tampons and I wouldn't change back to pads now. I've never had terrible pains or cramps, but with cup I barely notice periods now. On heaviest flow day I have to empty the cup every 3-4 hours, but otherwise I have no problems.

>>9110
I bought mine from local pharmacy years ago, but there's lots of places to get those online (amazon, online pharmacies etc). There's list of manufacturers in wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cup#Brands and comparing different cups is good idea.

I don't know has the Diva cup (http://www.divacup.com/) changed over the years, but mine is 6 years old now and still in good condition :)

I never got comfortable with tampons and I wouldn't change back to pads now. I've never had terrible pains or cramps, but with cup I barelly notice periods now. On heaviest flow day I have to empty the cup every 3-4 hours, but otherwise I have no problems.

Finally had sex for the first time last week. It was pretty okay, but he couldn't get it up completely and went flaccid after a little bit.

I'm going to be nice to myself and assume that it was because we were both nervous and I was too tight, rather than because I'm ugly and a terrible fuck. Is it fair to do that?

>>9162
Absolutely fair. Nerves are a big contributing factor to arousal. The more blood pumping to your heart and your brain in panic- the less there is to pump to your genitals.

I've come to wonder: how often do you all masturbate?

I do something everyday, but I only really hunker down and see it through every week or so.

>>9165
Twice a day on average. Sometimes only once a day, sometimes not at all, sometimes seven times in one day. It varies.

>>9165
Once every couple of days. Really depends on how sexually active I am/how engrossed I get in pornographic fanart/videos/fanfiction/roleplays.
Lately, my sex drive's been dampered because I've been working nine hours a day, every day, and I just fall into my bed most nights. Still, once every couple of days.

>>9165
once a day usually. more if i've got nothing better to do

>>9165
Depends. Sometimes I don't need to for ages, sometimes I desperately excuse myself 'to go to the ladies'' during dinner because can. not. wait.

Of course, if the cat's in the room, I can't do it at all. Is that weird?

>>9165
I haven't in three months. Before that, it was once a month at most.

>>9165
Due partially to my hormone tumor this can very greatly. If my hormones are low then maybe once in 2-3 months, if they are average, one or twice a week and if they are high I've hit 14 times full though in one sitting.

>>9179
I don't think it's weird if you can't do it with the cat in the room. My cat seems to think it's a show or something even when it's me and my bf together. Cat just sits there watching and purring like a creep.

>>9179
I think it'd be weirder if you were all 'Hey, kitty voyeur, watch me pound THIS pussy!'

I can't do it with the cat in the room, either. But I feel bad if I just throw her out. I always wait for her to leave on her own.

>>9186
Well, other animals don't think sex is embarrassing. And since the cat probably likes you, and probably understands that you like having sex, I guess he just purrs out of sympathy or something. Family member is happy= I am happy, don't mind me.

Of course, I am no expert on cats. But I've heard on dogs wanting to "get in on the action", trying to lick their owner's genitals etc.

I kind of wish sometimes that humans didn't have that sense of embarrassment when it came to sex, that we could handle it as most animals do.

When I was single, I used to masturbate about 2-3 times a week. Now I do it less often.

This isn't really anything sexual, or really anything to do with my lady bits between my legs.

I've never gotten blackheads before, but the other day, I found and got rid of what I assume was a blackhead near my right breast. Is there any reason why I'd get one there of all places?

>>9246
Sometimes get boob acne-- less now than when I was still a teenager. So I guess it doesn't seem weird to me (though I never get blackheads, I almost always get those awful big red painful ones, and then it's like "Really, boobs?")

But, blackheads... kind of the product of dirt and sweat in the pores, yeah? And summer tends to mean more sweat at least, if not more dirt. My skin always likes to freak out in various ways in the summer.

Anyway, if you already got rid of it fairly easy, I wouldn't even worry. I mean, if you keep getting them, like, really persistently even though you never used to, you could ask a dermatologist about it, but if it's a one-off thing, probably no big deal, just an awkward placement.