Online.

Never from China.

I'm not taking that risk.

I'm looking for a good toy too. I keep being linked to adameve.com whether I ask, but no one ever recommends anything for beginners :( I'm guessing just a good basic ~6" dildo would work fine, BUT I DON'T KNOWWWWW

I only go to sex shops in china for my dildos

they're the best source for any kind of lead based sexual pleasure

I've only ever gotten mine from Spencer's. But that's mostly because going to an actual adult store it way too expensive.

>>88
AdamEve.com is bad news- they will spam you quite literally forever. During the Paleolithic era, when everything was mail-order only, and you had to prove your identity to buy rubbers in my hometown, my parents bought rubbers from them. It was after I was born but before I was weaned, and they wanted to ensure that my kid brother would wait a few years before arriving, without the help of birth control pills.

Despite having asked to be taken off their lists, MANY TIMES, my mama is STILL receiving raunchy mailers from them. They were very educational when I was a teenager, but you probably do not want.

By comparison, http://sextoyfun.com has proven cheap, reliable, discreet and easy to search. I used them as a source to get dildos to make into horrifying "art" projects, but they seem like a good place for My First Dildo.

How do you know what size you'll need? Well, this is embarrassing, but it's way better than buying an expensive giant dong you'll never use (most people buy their first sex toy WAYYY too big. Bigger is not better, folks). Get yourself some condoms, some lube, and then, in a *separate* shopping trip, raid the grocery store for cucumbers, carrots, bananas and the like. Bring 'em home, scrub 'em down and wrap 'em up,* then see what feels best. When you find one that works just right, measure its length and width, then buy a toy built to those specs.

*this bit is VERY important. One of my college pals got a Disease from a banana that didn't go away for months. The jokes are still not dead, for that matter.

Before I buy a toy, I make sure it's phthalates-free, so I'm very iffy about shopping online unless it's advertised as pure silicone or is an item made from glass.
What might seem like a deal could arrive smelling like a plastics factory and leave you with a burning vagina/asshole no matter how many times you cleanse the toy. So be careful and be sure to study up before you go to buy.

>>97
I can take my 1" plug perfectly well with no issues, and the ONLY problem on the 2" is that 3" portion towards the end and simply can't fit. So long as I make the girth no longer than 2", I should be fine.

And I never knew that about adameve.com. I need to keep this shit from the rest of my family, so thanks for the heads up about the mailers. I'll either use that site or go to the local sex shop (which thankfully has parking in the back).

>>98
I've had this issue before with my set of plugs, but so long as I keep them in storage, the smell doesn't really permeate all that much, especially after you use them enough.

>>97
Yeah you suggested that website to me ages ago and I was very please. $4 bullet that's still going strong? Thank you /very/ much.

It depends on how you masturbate, also. I don't prefer to use my hands so I enjoy remote controlled toys. My first vibrator was cheap with few frills but it got the job done better than the brush handle I was using previously.

I've been kind of wanting to get something but I've been too nervous to actually seriously go into an adult store. There's one just a walk from my house but it somehow feels skuzzy.

I've got condoms and lube, though, and something vaguely shaped like a dildo. Derp. It's not pliable at all, though. Which I guess some people like, but it's not doing much of anything for me.

>>97
Also Terato, I asked you in the last thread about that Wartenburg wheelydoodle but I'm not sure if you ever saw it. How exactly does it feel like being cut open, again? It sounds like something that might appeal to me more than I'd like to admit.

Can anyone recommend a decent bullet vibrator that wont die about a week in? Or doesn't cost me an upwards of $100.

I got a $45 one recently, it was fantastic, except the motor just up and died on me about 2 weeks in, not to mention it wasn't very powerful to begin with. Oh the lights still work awesome though. Goodjob femplay for recommending me that one. :|

My issue from the last thread remains - Boyfriend is already really understanding regarding my love for fictional characters, does even sexytimes RPs with me, I want to have cosplay sex at some point, it seems rude to me regarding how many favors he already did me. What do?

>>121
Wartenburg wheels were invented to test nerve functioning. If all is right with your nervous system, you'll feel individual pokes from the spikes on sensitive bits, like lips or fingertips. On less-sensitive areas, like your torso or limbs, it just feels like a line of sharpness. When you're blindfolded and can't SEE that it's actually little individual spikes, the sensation is a very convincing stand-in for knife play. The benefit is that the worst damage you can do with a Wartenburg wheel is a pinprick drop of blood, while the worst damage you can do with a slip of the knife is quite bad indeed.

>>125
What you do is, have sex HIS way for a change. Even if you're not really into it, as long as you're not grotesquely disgusted by whatever his kinks are, just play along for him to get his rocks off. Talk to him about it- it may be that just having some sex, ANY sex, with you is all he wants, and he doesn't mind if he has to dress up like Elmer Fudd to get it. In an ideal world, you both get as much of your favourite kind of sex as you ever wanted.

Mmkay, so Mama has absolutely no trouble admitting she's a virgin. And I feel like someone needs to know this about me, even if this someone is the internet. But you guys are awesome and entirely nonjudgemental.

So anyone who's been paying attention to my occasional happy post in the feelings thread knows that Mama has a serioux beau right now, and things are starting to get hot. I find myself not particularly liking the taste of cum but I absolutely love the look on his face when I swallow, so should I feel guilty about that?

Also, my mom gave me the whole "Don't lose it having sex, lose it making love" speech when I was younger, and I finally understand what she means. I'm quite literally close to losing it (boyfriend and I originally planned to hang on Tuesday night, but fucking Aunt Flo hates me) so general first time tips would be awesome.

>>143
I can just say this: Do what you enjoy and let it happen if you feel like it. It just happens then. I made a fuss about everything beforehand, worrying and shit and then it just ... happened. So just go into your sexytimes as usual and go on as you both please.

Also, if it hurts a bit at first, that's really totally normal. Your hymen might even already be open, especially if you do sports. As long as you are relaxed and the both of you are enjoying what's going on, the pain should be over pretty quickly.

Best of luck, girl!

>>133
Sounds like an idea. It's not like I never do what he wants of course - It's just that he doesn't have very clear ideas of what he wants to do with me. He has a small handful of fetishes, but most of them are either focused on unrealistic things or stuff I can't realize that soon. So yeah, I have to quiz him some more.

>>145
I've heard about the hymen already being partially broken or something, I've been doing dance all my life so that might've happened. Also, I hear from a friend that experience with masturbation can also make it less uncomfortable, is this true?

>>143
Most people don't actively like the taste of semen. It's just a thing. If your guy smokes, get him to quit, otherwise, feed him up on lots of pineapple and other fresh fruits, plus plenty of water. I'm not saying it's ever gonna be minty-fresh, but it won't be as bitter. Practise putting him right at the back of your mouth when he's ready to come, so that the jizz goes right down the hatch, or cultivate a taste for facials. It's also OK to keep a glass of water by the bed and cleanse your palate afterward. As long as you're not retching and spitting like he just put a centipede in your mouth, it's fine.

As for first-time penetrative sex, have him go down on you for about an hour first. By the time you've had a nice orgasm or six, you should be relaxed enough to avoid the panic response that our culture instills about LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY (dun dun DUNNNN). Also, if he fingers you while he's at it, it'll help loosen and lubricate stuff in general. Go carefully, use lots of lube, take it slow, and don't wig out if it won't fit initially, or he loses his boner due to terror, or humourous noises occur. Despite what our culture says, it isn't a big deal if this isn't the World's Best Sex Ever. Think of it as a trial run. You'll get better with practise.

I got my first-time sex advice from my cousin. She said it'd hurt in a persistent, low-grade, spleen-jostling kind of way. My first time was kind of awkward, and I freaked out and made the poor boy stop halfway through (though he was very graceful about it), but it actually went way better than I'd hoped.

>>143
As others have said, just be chill and go with the flow. I always reiterate to everyone, if he doesn't respect you saying no, or you don't respect him saying no, something is very, very wrong. Just do what's comfortable.

And don't forget condoms! Despite what movies say, you really can get pregnant the first time you have penetrative sex. Be safe! And remember, it's okay to laugh if something is super awkward. It'll break up any tension, and, in my experience, makes the moment more intimate.

Be safe and have fun!

I use EdenFantasys. No spam letters unless you sign up or something and I think you can opt out of them anyways, good prices, HUGE selection. Definitely recommend that.

My first insertable toy is the Bgood in pink (because I'm a girlfag like that), it's slim but not too small, good length, strong vibrations, pretty sure it's phthalates-free (no smell and no burn EVER), velvety feel and not sticky, and pretty good for people who don't know jack about toys. Traditional in every sense of the word, no extra doohickeys, yadda yadda. http://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/traditional-vibrators/bgood

I wouldn't know shit about first time sex or hymens, as a kid I was a dancer, gymnast, horseback rider, and sports player so by the time I figured out what vagina was that thing was probably TOTALLY shredded, lol. But generally yeah I would think masturbation might help, as well as using tampons or something to either help break it early or at the least stretch so it doesn't hurt once it finally breaks. From what I've heard though, unless you have a very thick or non-elastic hymen, it generally won't hurt or bleed at all, so that part is nothing to be afraid of. Some people don't even have them to begin with lol.

Long story short if you're legal, informed, protected, and -absolutely sure- you're ready, go for it. And if things don't go perfect then remember you're just like everyone else and there's nothing to fear.

Are there any Aussie-nons with online toy shop references? I had no idea vibes were so expensive and they seem to be cheaper overseas (what with the dollar being so good and all :s)

My first time hurt and was awkward but my second time was /fabulous/. Like what Marty said, try to ease the pressure off it being the BIG NIGHT and just think of it as practice for something that can be amazing and great after a while.

>>143
Let me just tell you right now: Don't be on top. Not for your first time. All that "it lets you control the rhythm" is bullshit, missionary is a much better angle for your first time. At least, in my experience; you could very well have totally different angles inside, but I doubt there's that much variation. The penetration also doesn't have as much of a chance of getting too deep if things get painful or uncomfortable.

tl;dr DON'T BE ON TOP. YOU HAVE A LIFETIME TO TOP YOUR MAN, DON'T TRY TO BE A HERO YOUR FIRST TIME OUT.

Goddamnit I KINDA forgot that Chi reads the chan too.
Oh well he agreed on cosplay sex so I have nothing to complain about.
Chi, you rock.

Hey Girlfags, what experience have ye with receiving oral? Because I have a little but it wasn't that wonderful and in fact felt mostly awkward, and I was wondering if this is a case of doinitwrong, particularly considering my man told me he doesn't actually enjoy it, and in fact struggles with not retching with hair in his mouth.
Not that he's asked me to shave/wax etc. We share the opinion that a lack of hair-down-there is reminiscent of one thing - pre-pubescent children. And that is not cool.
N.B. Also interested to hear the chan's thoughts on that.

>>271

Yeah, I've also wanted to know what's so great about getting oral as a girl. I mean, the tongue barely goes in at all, and it's probably awful for the guy. I've gotten it once and I barely liked it at all, so I'd like to know why it's sooo great.

>>271
>>272

As someone who has gotten off on getting oral, it really depends on if your partner has any skill with it. My partner was basically taught how to properly eat a girl out by a lesbian, so he's gotten enough skill with his tongue to properly pull off cunnilingus. It's all stimulation of the clitoris, and if he can't find it, or you're not that responsive, then maybe it's not for you. I think it works better for me because I cum pretty easily.

So, yeah, just slobbering all over your pussy isn't really going to do much.

>>271
Have you tried just shaving the lower parts? You don't have to be completely bare but I've had much success with shaving or waxing the hair on the labia and leaving the mons alone or trimmed. There are more options available than just completely smooth or untrimmed shrubbery.

>>271
If you are interested in cunnilingus
I suggest you try or do a variation of the "landing strip" look
http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Pubic_hair_style_Landing_Strip.jpg
It keeps hair out of the mouth, allows for better hygiene, and prevents the creepy prepubescent look of being bare.

Cat pretty much has it on the nose...It's all about clitoral stimulation and directing your man till you find what works for you. Some people find it more pleasurable than others.

>>271
My beau absolutely loves it, and Cat definitely has it right, because when it's done right, oh man is it right. I do reccomend a landing strip, though maybe with more hair than what's illustrated - it keeps you clean, but there's still enough there to avoid day-to-day discomfort with panties.

>>281
Yeah, you're right, being OVER sensitive though can kinda kill it. So far I could never hold out for long while receiving oral simply because I couldn't endure the feeling. Hurm.

>>286
Then maybe direct clitoral stimulation isn't your thing? I actually love it when the areas /around/ my clit are touched rather than the clit itself because I'm so sensitive it almost hurts sometimes.

It's getting to be that time of year when Vikings start getting frisky -

KGBoyfriend - "Are you drawing porn? COOL!"

KGBigelow - "You know that these are all men, right?"

KGBoyfriend - "Yeah, whatever gets you wet.." (grope grope, hump hump)

I have zero sexual experience. I haven't been asked out or kissed, and I feel really hesitant to schlick because I live with overprotective parents who don't understand the concept of privacy/body issues. Just no idea how to start.

>>295
The shower is your godsend.

>>295
Getting privacy is part of asserting your own identity; very archetypally teen-aged, utterly necessary to your socio-cultural development, and subject to undue resistance from some paranoid parents. Simple steps:

Obtain and install a simple eye-hook latch on your bedroom door. Don't necessarily mention this to your parents. Do ask that they knock before they come in. Set a glass of water or similar by the corner of the door, where it will be knocked over should they barge in (make it look accidental- "geez, mom, if you'd KNOCKED, I coulda moved that water!"). Get them accustomed to knocking before coming in, then start latching the door behind you. That will give you enough security to start doing whatever you want to do.

TMI time- I didn't start fappan til I was 17. I was terrified of and disgusted by that portion of my person. Avoiding sex like that made me WEIRD. Deeply pervertedly weird. The sex maniac you see before you now is largely a product of trying too hard to repress my (perfectly reasonable) adolescent urges. Believe it or not, I am way less of a creeper now than I was at age 17. Better sense of humour, too.

>>295
>>298

I didn't even know how to find my own clit until I was about 17. I knew this one spot felt good but I didn't really know why and I was never motivated enough to fetch a hand mirror and explore. But combine that with my dislike of using my hands and masturbation was very tricky.

Once you get your privacy established don't sweat if you're doing anything "properly." If something feels good, keep doing it. Don't be afraid to bring objects into play too (I had a trusty brush handle before I was able to buy my own "real" toys).

Hey guys, I have an odd question.

I recently found out that I'm asexual. It's not that nothing can ever turn me on, I've just never thought the idea of having sex(oral, anal, vaginal etc.) was pleasing.

Well, just not on myself anyway. I'd still like to have a relationship but how do I tell the person I'm dating that I don't want to have sex?

Well, honestly I have no trouble telling someone I'm asexual (im a very bold and vocal kind of person) but what I can do in a relationship to make the other person happy?

(And no, I'm not just opposed to penetration. I'm all around asexual, including clitoral stimulation.)

Also, TMI I believe I was born without a clitoral hood (or a smaller one) and touching my clit seems to do nothing. No idea whether that is psychological or not, any ideas?

>>300
I know this is a pretty shitty advice because love can't be forced/unforced, but how about trying to get in touch more with other asexuals? Maybe there are some in your area you'd like to meet and maybe more? Just suggesting.

I was thinking about anoning for this but, fuck it. I like how my art is heading this thread again. :|

It seems whenever some women are describing an orgasm that it's like the most wonderful crazy feeling ever, so much so there is a clear bodily reaction like shaking for minutes afterward, screaming, or "blacking out", etc.

I see it so often that I'm partially convinced that I've never had one. But that can't really be it because I've had release and it's pleasant, but it wasn't like omfgawesome as "everyone" seems to paint it. Sometimes I think it's just because the partner at the time just wasn't good, or I just having hit the buttons just right, or maybe because I'm in all likelihood asexual that it wouldn't be so intense because of this. I mean, the fact that it just kind of a nice "meh" feeling makes me less inclined to want to engage in the activity, which may become a problem if I get a steady partner down the road.

What do the sex gurus think?

>>304
Are you me? I've been thinking this too. But not anymore. You know why? Because it doesn't fucking matter. Orgasm, no orgasm, as long as you had fun, what's the big deal?
Let me tell you that each and everyone's orgasm is different. Some women have these crazy orgasms where they black out, others just have this mild feeling of satisfaction. Both is perfectly healthy and normal.

Sex is not about achieving an orgasm all the time like it's a race or something - It's about having fun together. As long as that's the case, screw orgasms.

>>275
(original q-asking anon here)
It still kinda wigs me out, the thought of "taming" pubic hair (I'm fine with armpits and legs, it's just a thing). Plus, I'm terrified to do it myself, in case it goes horribly wrong, and mortified to ask someone else to do it. I am not very girly when it comes to things like that. I haven't even had my hair cut in a bit over two years.

>>304
I had this exact mindset for years. Then I gained Current Boyfriend of +7 Dynamite-In-The-Sack. It's entirely possible that it's an unsatisfiable thing (Current Boyfriend is also +3 First-Time-I've-Ever-Fallen-In-Love, so that probably helped for me), but I was pretty much convinced that everyone had hyped up orgasm in some kind of cruel trick to make women not in on the joke feel inadequate and unsatisfied.
But then I had a proper one and everything went legit white and I stopped thinking in sentences (this never happens for me - my mind automatically types shit up before I say it, and my internal narration is punctuated). It was awesome.

I got slightly sidetracked there I think so I hope that helped a little.

>>307
(I should namefag so I can keep track of this conversation; I am >>310 again)
This, too. The OH LAWDY I THINK I'M IN SPAAAACE reaction is by no means consistent or even particularly frequent, despite Current Boyfriend's awesomeness. Mostly it's about closeness, and fun, and I'll admit I absolutely love watching him get off nearly as much as I do myself.

Oh and this one time, at band camp, I stuck a flute in my pussy.

SUPPORT EVERYWHERE

>>298
pff, i didn't start until i was 20

>>304

Yo! I thought I was asexual for the longest time too (didn't even know how to masterbate until I was 17) - then I had sex with a man(same dude I'm gonna die with) for the first time when I was 20. So it turns out that I actually have a LOT of very strong urges, I just grew up sexually repressed; my parents were older and they each had careers that ate up all their time, and my mom was really conservative and overprotective (didn't even want me watching the WWF - but I did it anyway because I'm a bad-ass bitch >:I). It was good for me academically, being basically trained to not be interested in men in a sexual way. But you can probably tell looking at the way that I drew men(especially my older stuff) that I had some weird psychological/sexual shit floating around in my head.
It sounds bad, but putting my stuff up here and getting feedback from actual women (gay men?) that it's OKAY to be a big lady and love the cock actually helped me become more 'normal', so that all that sexual energy can be channeled into something other than artwork that I want to be taken seriously by galleries and non-pornographic publishers - like actual sex. It also helped me come to terms with the fact that I'm also partial to girls (TMI time - I got hit on and indulged female friends in highschool - nothing serious, just making out and talking. I got the same kind of warm fuzzy that I got from the same kind of 'harmless' interaction with male friends). KGBoyfriend called his brother and bragged to him about this for an hour after he found out.

Normally, I wouldn't be giving advise to strangers about sex because of how lucky I got with KGBoyfriend. But you remind me of a younger me, Kilo. i can see, looking at your work that you objectify men the same way I do. Objectification is just ONE way to explore your sexuality. It helps take all those complicated thoughts out of simply appreciating the human body for what it is. Human beings are the most sexually motivated species on the planet - but we are also the most psychotic species. Of course there's a physical response to sexual stimulation - but your brain is the key player in sex. And that's okay - one day you will meet a cock (or a sweet farm girl with huge tits) that will tickle you just right and things will fall into place.

dammit, I wrote a book.

Time for an asexual to step into this conversation, no?

>>300
Be up front about it. When sex comes up, just tell the truth. Though I want to advise you - what your brain thinks and what your body thinks can be two very different things. Take myself for example. My brain loves the idea of sex. But, my body does not have a physical response to people. I am not physically attracted to people. I've had enough experience to be sure that if my body were going play, it would have by now. So my advice is to experiment a little first before you decide you're really asexual. It sounds as if you have not had sex or attempted masturbation, and you should really try the latter before writing off the former completely.

Don't get me wrong though, sex is really gross. That's just the nature of it though.


>>304
I'm going to go with KGBigelow a little on this one, and say that you should make sure you're not repressing yourself at all first.

Second, as long as sex is still fun, it probably won't be an issue, but if you do feel less inclined to partake and you're in a steady relationship, it's just a compromise, like any other part of a relationship. Make sure you discuss your sexual selves openly in any relationship and work out what is mutually best for both of you.


And a note on asexuality - it can be different for others, but how it manifests in me is a complete lack of physical attraction response to people. Pretty much everyone has their "type" that gets their rocks off, but I don't. I also find that sex is pretty "meh" - I generally don't enjoy it, and my orgasms are a very "meh" experience as well, so I am disinclined to participate.

>>304
Straight dude here, so second-hand info only, but you've probably had an orgasm. "Normal" orgasms can be anything from a porn-style clench & squeal to "unf, done". I've seen extreme reactions like you've described, but they weren't a routine occurance - doable with a good partner, but not par for the course.

It's the same with guys, too. I've had orgasms I barely noticed, and I've had orgasms that practically set off car alarms in a five-block radius. The intensity's dependent on a whole bunch of things, which probably vary from person to person.

Those stories you're hearing are probably about that one OH MY FUCKING GOD AMAZING time she had, or being with a partner who knows them inside-out. So don't sweat it too bad.

>>383

Also, objectification is fun.

Thanks for the info.

I'm pretty sure I'm not repressed, though. God knows I had urges since I was 9 and given the opportunity would act on them in physical ways. It seems the desire there is just, maybe a little less than what's considered the norm, but who knows.

It probably is just a matter of finding the right partner but it's been 2 years since the last which I don't even really count because I found out my attachment was one sided (which was devastating). Unfortunately the process of finding partners is difficult as I don't do casual, and the ones I come across never want to commit. Forever alone.

>>389
Kilo, believe me, you are not forever alone. Love can be a bitch, but I still believe there's one for everyone, as naive as that sounds. Just don't be desperate. Meet people on cons, in hobby clubs, even on forums based on the area where you live and gain new friends. One of them might be your next partner, who knows? Have fun and let it happen when the opportunity arises. Don't worry too much.

>>394

Define desperate. Because when I don't actively think about finding a partner, I come off as uninterested to potential ones because then I don't flirt and focus on things that aren't building relationships.

This has happened to me on a few occasions where I had to have other friends go "Dude, he's so into you" and I'm like "Buh, what? Really?" which by that time said guys moved on.

Anyway, since this is a sex thread and not a love thread, I recommend replying via IM.

>>300
Date other asexuals. There's more of them out there then you'd might think, and it's a hell of a lot easier. \o/

>>386
Yeah, that's kinda what it's like for me, too. Sex doesn't interest me. It just seems like a waste of time. It might be because I have such a vivid imagination and anything I imagine is a lot better than any sex I've ever had.
I'd much rather fap to my own fantasies (I rarely look at porn) or RP with someone. It's loads more entertaining.
And irl sex is just gross anyway.

Anyway- What's your favorite kink/fetish, and how do you think you started liking it?

Mine is gore/guro.
(which most of you probably know, I mean c'mon you can't have a picture of gore on the chan without me all over it. Also I help keep the gurochan thread alive)

Surprisingly, though, not too long ago I was very, VERY fearful of gore, mostly when shock images were popular. I couldn't understand why someone found guro HOT. But I found myself staring at guro pictures longer. And longer. And then I started fantasizing about it. And now it's all I think about.

Real gore doesn't do anything for me though. Actually, I'm still kinda afraid of real gore. One of the reasons why I decided I didn't want to become a paramedic after all. :T

I have a question that was posed to be by someone giving a speech to our school while talking about modern culture in high school:

Why does it seem like society makes virginity look like a disease that you have to get rid of as soon as possible?

I am a virgin, and relatively proud of it (Admittedly one of those, "When I find the man of my dreams and get married" people) and have seen lots of things where people brag about having sex and mocking others who haven't- not here obviously, but I mean on TV, in music, and in movies. Why do you think that is?

As for asking for advice, what if you have a fetish that is seen as rather taboo and you know is mocked by others? I have one or two friends who share it, but overall it's something I get embarrassed when mentioning.

>>399
I honestly don't know. I think it's because of my generally relaxed attitude towards such things - To each their own. Sex is not serious business or some shit. You have it when you want to, not when people yell "HOW CAN YOU BE A VIRGIN GET SOME SEX GEEZ"
Maybe it's sort of a remaining instinct? The need to prove yourself as fertile and desirable? No matter what, people shouldn't give two shits about it. Sex is so much more fun when you treat it like, well, fun, and not like your life's only purpose.

Also regarding the fetish thing: As long as you don't go around telling everyone about your fetishes (which you shouldn't do anyway no matter what fetishes you have because it's annoying out of context) you should be fine. I know that here, nobody cares what you like, embarrassing or not - I mean, we have the hots for fictional parody men who kill each other gruesomely all the damn time. When you put it like that, that's pretty pathetic. But who cares?
If you need more people to discuss your fetish with, look for forums and boards online. I'm sure there is one for you.

>>399
>Why does it seem like society makes virginity look like a disease that you have to get rid of as soon as possible?

There are a couple different reasons. First, our society is just getting over a period that prized virginity, particularly women's virginity, very highly. (Men weren't even part of the concept of "virgin.") "Getting rid of" your virginity is a way of proving you're not part of that stodgy mindset. For boys, our culture has always put a premium on sexual experience, so "getting rid of" your virginity is a way to seem like a manly man.

Similarly, the major proponents of keeping your virginity are retrograde religious weirdos. Hands up all those who want to be like the Mormons!

Finally, in our consumer culture, sex is used to sell stuff, and the ads designed to make the products, whatever they are, look awesome ALSO manage to make sex seem like the most important thing ever. (See left).

Basically, sex is fashionable right now, virginity is out. The concept of 'self-actualisation' or even just 'doing what feels right' are not really part of the discourse.

'Nother question:
People who constantly talk about their sexual encounters IRL, unprompted. I find this intimidating, unless I know the person really well. What are your thoughts?

I mention this because I have a friend who does this. And I have been reliably informed by two of his "conquests" that he's not that great anyways. But I used to wig out about him trying to put a move on me. And now we're actually pretty good friends, it doesn't bother me so much, as I tend to aggressively flirt with my close friends for jokes. Just not people I don't know so well.

I consider myself asexual because... honestly, I can't see myself dating somebody. I mean, I might like to, in the future, if I found a girl I liked enough, but... I'm kinda "meh" on the whole thing.

Also Showerheads are love. <3

>>412
Oh, uh. Just tell me to STFU. Sorry about that.

>>441
p sure that asexual is not wanting to have sex, not just that you can't get anything.

Any others here with clothing kinks? I know of our crossdressingfags, but do we have others?

I know I like a mighty fine dressed guy more than anything. Whatever looks manly and well groomed is good in my book - Like suits, uniforms, leather, the like. A well dressed men makes me drool without even an inch of his chest or genitalia uncovered.

>>396
> Fantasies and RP
Glad I'm not the only one. And if I'm ever in a "need porn" mood (this is incredibly rare) I usually scout for hours and hours trying to find a couple that sound like what I'm looking for - I don't usually even bother watching the damn thing.

>>481
I. Fucking. Love. Longcoats. And I mean the real ones, the ones that come down near to your ankles and billow out with the breeze. They seem to exude confidence and intrigue and they also look warm and protective. Just yum.
Guys in sweaters are extra-cute, and I like gloves and ties. But they don't feel nearly as sexually appealing as a good coat.

Alrighty, question time - I usually feel super icky about using my fingers on bare flesh, when it comes to proper stimulation. Is that.. odd? Anyone have suggestions to get over the ick? I find when I'm rubbing through something the stimulation feels alot more.. even, for lack of a better word. But if I'm not even comfortable handling myself properly, I can't imagine having much fun when I find a proper partner.

>>481
All military uniforms, all the time.

God, no wonder I'm a virgin. :P

>>490
Ever thought about trying toys and using them to get more comfortable with handling your body?
Also, if it's of any consolation, I'm not keen on my own fingers being in my private parts but I love Chi's there. It might just be something you feel towards your own fingers.

It seems to me that there is a prevailing stigma around the idea of 'serious dating' here - as in, just because you are not interested in 'dating' you are therefore asexual.
Seriously kids - if you get the tiniest little tingle down there for whatever reason, you're not asexual. You just don't know what you want yet. And so long as you have ONE friend you are never alone.
there's no rushing these things. explore without shame. Just remember that repression can lead you down to some pretty dark corridors that can have adverse affects on your day to day life, believe me.

oh damn - in my rant I forgot to mention that I just like big, tough, manly dudes. That's my thing. It doesn't matter what they're wearing or what they're doing - so long as they're still in pretty good shape, with perma-stubble and scars and shit and can take some punishment.
yeah that's right. I'm into some good old fashioned bondage and S+M.

>>502
>Seriously kids - if you get the tiniest little tingle down there for whatever reason, you're not asexual.
Plenty of Asexuals have sex drives,but are either not attracted to males or females, or simply just have no interest in sex at all with another person.
There are Autosexual "Asexuals" too,btw.

>>504.
fuck it let me just link the AVEN wiki page. Sage for doublepost.
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexuality

>>412
I find that totally obnoxious. I'm probably massively old fashioned but I don't want to know how many people my friends have fucked in the last week or so. This is why I had no friends all through college! Haha.

>>304
Kilo, people exaggerate. Thats all I can say haha. There are probably varying (spelling?) degrees of pleasure for it but ultimately I think most people ham it up.

>>307
>Sex is not about achieving an orgasm all the time like it's a race or something - It's about having fun together.
I thought I was the only one who thought this. I love you more every day Perry. :3c

Imo there are far too many types of -sexuals. There should just be COCKsexual, CUNTsexual, ALLsexual, or NOT-BOTHEREDual. That said, I've no idea wtf I'd be anyway.

Good shop for Brits; getmepleasure.com
I'm not sure if they ship to other countries or anything though. Fast delivery and discreet packaging/receipts. They do amazing daily deals too, I got something worth £50 for £8 including delivery. Heck yes!

>Imo there are far too many types of -sexuals. There should just be COCKsexual, CUNTsexual, ALLsexual, or NOT-BOTHEREDual

I dunno if it even needs to be defined that far. I'd be ok with people either being 'sexual' or 'non-sexual'. Either you're interested in it, or you aren't.

I don't care if you enjoy sex with other people or not. Just don't come onto a TMI sex discussion thread and say that you're asexual. it's a gross misuse of the word. Non-sexual people have better things to do with their free time.

Anyway - another bit of unsolicited ranting - if you don't buy underwear online, why buy sex toys online?
Just go to the porno store like everyone else. If you have questions, ask the person behind the counter - they work at a porno store, so they know a little bit about sex, and there's no way they can judge you.

>>539
Why shop online?
Mostly because alot of stuff that is sold at your average porno store is crap quality or grossly overpriced. Alot of the "advanced" equipment and devices that they sell at the big one closest to me are all cheap Chinese garbage. I mean it's pretty bad when a restraint system or a harness doesn't even have measurements on the box.

>>539
I live in Texas! All the porno stores are miles out on the highway in the middle of nowhere, in derelict ex-gas stations with flickering neon signs that read XXX ADULT DVDS XXX, peopled with complete skeevers! I have zero interest in going out there when I can just use the damn internet.

>>544
But you meet such interesting people!

>>545
Man, that's why I hang around travelling carnivals late at night when they're doing teardown. Carnies are awesome, but I don't consider them good company for picking out sex toys.

>>539
I'm disappointed how categorized you're trying to make sexuality. Just because someone identifies as asexual does not mean that they haven't had sex. I personally have built up quite some experience because I was trying to figure out who I was sexually. And even an asexual person probably uses toys and masturbates, and maybe they have questions regarding that. Honestly, you don't seem to know very much about asexuality and are ignoring the nuances of each individual person's sexuality, and are attempting to lump people into broad generalizations. I feel like you could use a little research on the subject, and I think you should check out the site that Eudevie posted in >>507.

For anyone who wants to know about my experiences as an asexual, I am glad to talk about it.

I'd just like to remind everyone that sexuality is not black and white. It's a fuzzy color wheel with everything in between. Some of us just use certain words to help us identify who we are, and it's okay to not be the exact definition of a word you identify with. You just have to pick what you feel comfortable describing yourself as, and that's all that matters.

Pro-tip for people trying to find a place to buy babby's first sex toy online: Amazon sells shit, as in fulfilled by Amazon through their "Sexual Wellness" section. A lot of quality stuff is heavily discounted compared to buying from a shop, and you won't get embarrassing mailers. If you set it to not factor into your recommendations, you won't even get e-spammed.

... can we get back to the female squirting ejaculation and dicks please.

Honestly, guys. It doesn't matter. It does not matter if you would have it in a house, or with a mouse, or with a fox, or with a box. If you don't want them here or there or anywhere.

Oh god what did I just type.

And yes, if you don't like this thread just tab it. No need to come up in here all LOOK AT ME I'M ASEXUAL. And no need to rant against them, either.

Come now we don't need babysitting in this thread.

>>564
Let's get back to the dicks and the bones with this post, shall we?

Ok question;

When I have sex, I would have what I THOUGHT was an orgasm... I would squirt (yes, hello, another squirter here) and it would feel good.

But lately I acquired a vibrator and when I use it directly on my clitoris or on the hood, I have what I can only assume is also and orgasm. My body trembles, suddenly I feel flash- hot, and it's the most intensely amazing-feeling few seconds of my life. It's so amazing that I'm afraid I have ruined regular sex for myself. Will I have to fake orgasms for my man from now on? Just... the old "orgasm" pales in comparison to this new orgasm, which leads me to the question, which one is real? I mean, there's such a difference in the level of pleasure... was I not really having orgasms before?

>>575
As we already established, orgasms can vary heavily from woman to woman and also each time you have sex. It seems like you react best to clitorial stimulation - And you shouldn't worry about that. Why don't you just incorperate this the next time you have sex with a guy? He can lick and rub your clit too. Tell him how you like it and he can follow suit. You can also use toys while having sex, it works better than you might expect. Stimulating your clit and having good sex doesn't have to be seperate!

>>575

yes that is an orgasm. and no, those were orgasms too - just less intense ones. Once you've figured out how to trigger those more intense moments, it's my assumption that you could share this with your man and he'll play ball - just for your reaction and the tightening that happens when you climax. Sounds like you just respond well to clitoral stimulation - one idea would be him or you rubbing or using the vibrator on your clitoris while he's inside. Just a suggestion though. You guys need to work that bit out.

>>275
Other options you say? How about hair extensions down there?

*is shot*

>>599

I was trolling my boyfriend once and I asked him what he thought about me getting extensions down there.

He didn't say anything.

In regards to shaving the lady bits, I've tried it multiple times before, just around the edges to tidy things up a bit. And though I swear I did everything right--fresh razor, warm water, shaving cream, lotion, the works--I might as well have been rubbing myself with poison ivy the way it itched afterward. For days. Is shaving just not an option for me or is there more I can do to avoid the razor burn from hell? (At least I think it was razor burn, though I've never gotten it elsewhere so I can't make a good comparison.)

>>609
You may have, like many women, very sensitive skin down there. And you do seem to be doing everything right. I'd suggest looking into hair removing lotions for sensitive skin or perhaps lotion specifically for shaving that part of the body. You can find some available at most adult stores or websites.


Also I used to have great orgasms with my partner. Some stronger than others. Then I discovered my own personal trick while masturbating and I literally saw stars. But it doesn't happen every time and sometimes it happens almost automatically. It depends on the person and the method and what /you/ like most.

>>609
You can try and shave with baby oil and use aloe vera on the clean skin afterward...Alot of my friends swear on this method. There is also a after shave lotion that Nivea makes that is supposed to work wonders as well that I have yet to try. Personally, I do not like to use lotion or oil because it tends to break out my skin really bad.

From my experience, I find the more you shave the area, the more you become accustomed to shaving. If I let it grow back all the way, when I do go for a shave, the next day I am welcomed with red irritated skin and ingrown hairs. If I keep it trimmed and shaved, both issues seem to go away.
Also, I find using manly 3-4 bladed shavers rather than pink throwaway daisy shavers tend to irritate A LOT less. My guy has a Mach 3 and because he had sensitive skin and says disposables rape his face I thought it would work well downstairs...I was very pleased with the results. When I work through the last of my throwaways, I'm buying one for myself.

>>271
>>609
>>621

Nothing wrong with scissors as a last result. I get pretty unpleasant razor rash on my face (there was also that one time downstairs NEVAR AGAIN) so I grew a bit of a beard which I keep short & neat-ish. Same can be done elsewhere.

Marty:

Wartenberg wheel was a good idea. If anyone else is as hypersensitive as me I enthusiastically suggest it.

I just need to find a partner to get the hard to reach places...

wow, tf2chan is the last place I'd think to talk about my masturbation issues.

anyhow, I'm a virgin and I can't seem to shlick properly. this is the first year I've actually tried to masturbate, and I can't get myself off at all. rubbing feels pretty good, but it doesn't do all that much. I've tried fingering, but it does absolutely nothing. should I try toys or just wait?

>>666
It is /so hard/ for me to get off with just my fingers. It's only happened for me maybe four times EVER. I'd suggest a cheap bullet or vibrator to help you out. Also perhaps shlicking though a layer of cloth like your panties would give you the difference in sensation to push you over the edge.

>>666
Are you having trouble finding your clit? That may be the problem.

Offtopic: nice post get.

>>666

Oho, I'm a long time masturbator (twenty, started at age ten or eleven) and I just figured out how to have a real orgasm without anything but fingers in the last year. So don't fret girly. I improvised early on- my best friends were those three pronged back massagers they sell for like 5 bucks everywhere (like at Staples) and then my friend in the picture. Try things! Just be safe and don't use like... knife handles or unwashed/covered vegetables...

Not exactly sex, but it has to do with something down there.

The skin right between my crotch and my inner thighs sometimes rubs right off, it's painful and leaves it raw. And it's also itchy at times; I've checked for crabs, I don't have any, and I haven't had sex so this seems odd to me. I did shave right there, but only the smaller hairs for hygeine. I'm not quite sure what's wrong, should I stop trimming everything for a while and see what happens?

Shit's not excruciatingly painful, but it's annoying.

Straight female here. I find penetrative sex (vaginal) really...not pleasant? Not painful (anymore) exactly, but not unpainful, if that makes sense? It just kind of feels like someone is jabbing my organs with a blunt object. Which I guess is basically accurate.

Where is this wonderful "ahhh, faster, harder!" feeling I hear about where getting a dick in you is the most wonderful thing ever? I just find it unpleasant and want it to be over as soon as it starts.

Is it bad to be a 21 year old female whose never been in a relationship? My first fucking kiss was at a rave when I was 18 with some guy who was high. The closest thing to sex I got was with some friend who I conned into almost having a friends with benefits relationship until I pussied out after we sucked each other off (or i sucked him off, I didn't really get any pleasure from his tongue on me).

I feel like there's something wrong with me sometimes, like I'm the last goddamn virgin girl in California. I don't even want to be a virgin, and i know it'd be easy to just throw it away at some shady ass bar somewhere, but I don't even want to do that. I should probably find myself a guy, but that'd be selfish considering how many issues that they'd have to deal with. Plus, there are so many other women out there that I can't even compete

>>687
No. I didn't have my first kiss until this past summer and I'm 23. It doesn't matter that you're 21 and still a virgin; I'm 23 and still a virgin and I don't care at all. There are more important things in life than losing your virginity and being in a relationship.

>>684

Maybe the problem is the angle or the length? If it's all stabby and akward, then it shouldn't go as deep. Without the shank-shank feeling, it should feel a lot better, I think.

>>684
maybe he keeps hitting your cervix? although the cervix has no nerves in it per say, it does cause painful pressure on everything around it if it's hit. He could be going too deep and/or too hard, or you just might have a shallow vaginal canal. Us girls have a lot of internal plumbing, so jostling is bound to occur. May I suggest having him finger around on you a little and see where that takes you?

>>679
Baby powder. Best discovery I ever made.

>>702
MAIS NON! Get this, instead.

>>667
it seems to feel better with panties on, I'm not sure why.
>>671
I've used a mirror to explore down there, so I know where it's all at, I just can't find the pleasure points.
>>673
I've actually done just that! it feels ok, but I can't seem to get passed that point.